Hi Cheerful, In your posts you have given a lot of positive attributes to your dh. Most importantly you guys like the same tv channels and movies. He does not bother you to serve him his meals,takes you out etc. etc. The only thing is that he is non interfering. He is the quiet kind. Can you on your part appreciate the life he has given you. Trust me according to him he feels that he has provided with everything he can, now what else do you need, to be happy. If you feel he does not notice you then maybe you are wrong. Remember you said if I make a mistake then he corrects me instantly. As you say you have given up on taking care of yourself; you shouldn't. Wake up, make hot coffee, bathe, dress up be cheerful! Do not expect him to admire you all of a sudden. It may take years but it will happen. Trust me,some people take a lot of Oscar Awards and then there are a few who get a 'life time achievement award" so do not give up!