I did know where to post since its combined issue for nanny and toddler. I have infant at home that we are looking to put in daycare soon. We already signed up for next month. And my toddler will be in KG soon. She goes to different classes which means very busy for us. Now with school starting, it will be much harder since they are released at 3 and no bus at this age. So we need pick up, bring her at home and then WFH. For infant also pick up, drop off then dealing with sicknesses and we have hard schedules. When we older one was born, daycare was too much for our schedules and life. We were not able to take it... going to doc every week. Dealing with daily chores and baby care. Now we have 2 of them and much harder jobs with not much WFH flexibility. Me and my H are never on the same page and this time also. He is telling he will manage but I know him. He shouts around the house everyday because he is mainly managing my older one. Our house is already hell house, to be honest. He tells he will come pick her at 3 from school and then pick drop kid. Once brings home, he is done. He gets exhausted and screaming. He has no patience. Then he won'nt let hire help for housecleaning but won't do himself. Utimately, he will end up sending toddler to after-care which will be too much for her. So Please suggest. -I am thinking to nanny. It hard to trust new one with infant with so many news around but I feel it will be less burden on us. Also with toddler home at 3pm, it will be easier as she can be fed. - We do not prefer after care, because she goes to many classes already. - My H wants her to send to Kumon classes also, again we have to shuttle her and then make her sit do worksheets at home. Now, I ask her to sit and do some basic writing etc, but she does not sit at all. So H has kumon solution. I again think it will be too much( in case after-care is also added) for her and us. So looking at overall, I feel nanny will solve many problems. I will be free of other cooking issues and will get to spend more time with kids. And I will also hire help for cleanup. - that way i can send her to kumon later. For new nanny, i can install cameras and in the beginning, we might get 1-2 WFH days / week to settle him with her but i can not stay at home all the time. I know daycares are safer in that way. Kinjal patel case scares me. Please suggest what do you think.