Dear Friends, Greetings to you all.I have been a silent reader of the forum for quite sometime.I write this post to find an answer for a heart wrenching issue which has been eating my brain for the past 2 years.I don’t think I can pretend anymore.So here I go … Thanks for reading and would be greateful for your advice. Mine was a love cum arranged marriage.At the beginning of our marriage days,I did find that my parent inlaws were not in speaking terms with each other , unless necessary and they never go out together.never,ever.This was the first of the many things I noticed in the family. Both my MIL and FIL were more concerned about their own circle of relatives and friends, there was no family bonding, not even a shared family dinner.This was very different from my own family and I decided to intervene and to bring about an understanding , so arranged for picnics,movies and tours involving both my parents and my PILs and the expense was borne my me and my husband.Even when PIL were sick,I spent from my salary.My mum used to taunt me little bit ,(as my DH has a elder brother too) I used to reply ‘ they are my PILs , I love them as I love you and my DH , and it’s my duty too.’ My DH was so proud of me too. My MIL used to praise me for all that I am.We have 2kids now and its been 8 years of marriage. But what I failed to notice here was that , I never needed my PILs support (both emotional or financial) all along.I was the giver and they were happy takers.Before two years ,I was pregnant with my second kid and due to my job , I had to stay some 80kms away from the city.My parents moved in with us to help with my pregnency and we splited all our expenses.My PIL’s are retired too but did not want to move out of the city.So we used to visit them on weekends,every week. As my pregnency progressed to 7th month, and my job pressure took over ,I was unable to travel.My MIL demanded that my parents to visit them on weekends , and I obliged. When it was 15 days before my due date , my doctor advised me not to travel and to stay in the city, as I could have delivery anytime and It was also my second pregenancy. So I assumed I would stay at PIL home and asked my parents to stay at my workplace, as my first kid was studying there and my DH was out of country due to work. I had an easy first pregnancy , and since my PILs were at home, I told my parents and DH not to worry and confident I will take care of my self till delivery.Now comes the rude shock ,my MIL refused to let me in the house as she was “afraid” to take care of me and asked me to stay in a guesthouse or hostel. I had no idea what to do, as I have planned it that way, and in our tradition too, second pregnancy is taken care at PILs house. I had no choice but to stay at a guest house at full term along with my mother (as my father was with my first kid ,taking care of his schooling and my DH out of country).Not even a single day PIL came down to meet me nor enquired about anything.For those 15 days it was like I never existed for them.My second kid was born, and PIL came to the hospital once and saw only the baby (as I was still in the labour ward) and left quietly.They never visited for the next six months , till me and the baby were better.They started asking when I will visit them on weekends (I used to cook and clean and do all the household chores when I visit and also pay for house expenses). I was so shocked by their heartless and cold attitude.How could they act in such a way ,when all I needed from them was a 15 days stay at their home ,that too when I was full term.Is it not PIL duty too to take care of DIL? Now my PIL want me to be back my ownself, caring for them and spending time with them,take care when they are sick and take them on tours. I cant do that anymore and feel betrayed.When I thinkl back,they did anything during my first pregnency but I was so pampered by my DH and parents (I stayed at my parents house then) ,I dint notice.Nor they came to visit me anytime during my entire second pregnancy. Never have they spent a rupee for me,DH or our kids. I just came to realise ,they are just selfish and I am not fool enough to treat them same anymore.Al the least ,I feel cheated. Now MIL calls my DH every night and emotinally blackmails him for nearly an hour,everyday.My DH too seems to have convieniently forgotten it all. Now I can feel a gap between me & DH.With 2 kids, job and DH constant travelling abroad for work, Its like the gap keep widening each day. I feel my marriage has taken turn for the worse and going downhill, and I have no idea what to do.Even writing this post was emotionally draining. So frds, What do you suggest I do.Is there anything at all I shoud do to make things better. Please guide me and give your valuable suggestions.Thank you .