My peaceful life disturbed!

The maid is only an employee and should be treated as one..never let the maid get involved in family matters. Of course there are exceptions where maid has become part of family after many years. Tell the maid even if there is more work, she will be paid more or u can get additional help but never allow the maid to comment on guests.

As for the 3 yr old kid, u can scold her if she is naughty..u say tat u are saying for her own good...but also look at it this way..yr gal has company and she is learning to socialise and make friends.

Yr co sis is taking advantage since is on vacation, she is not doing work...u too lay in bed and say u are tired or unwell...they will get the picture soon and realise that their extended stay is not welcome.

 

Hi...

i can very well understand what u are going thru..:spin....... since ur husband is not helping u out to solve this.... i think u need to speak to ur parents/ siblings to find a way out.... u plan something with ur parents and try to leave to ur parents house for a while..... or ask a friend to come at ur place and make her ask questions to ur bil and co-sis ..like"how long are u staying?","where are u working".."ur kid seems to miss their grandparents...so why dont u take the kid to grandparets".... something like tht....

hope this helps....:thumbsup

regs
Rice

 

My goodness,

Do you have at least some positive terms with your co sis?
She is literally tired of sleeping yar.
Why dont you ask her to help you out.
Saying to help in cooking atleast in the evening.
Kids , we cant predict the behavior , its the influence of the environment in which they grow up.
So though you scold that kid, i dont think it would be big impact on her rather on ur bil or co sis.
Try to talk to ur hubby on this situation in more pleasant manner you can do.

 

Lets see if i understood your situation correctly. you have your cosister's family visiting your house.your cosister is tired due to sleeping for 16 hours a day. she has a daughter who is a spoiled brat and she is not even willing to admonish however irritating it is for others. she doesn't even help you out with your chores and you dont even know how long they are going to stay and top of all this a husband who is not even understanding or willing to acknowledge what you are going through....
:bowdown for your patience.
I guess if you let some one treat you like doormat ,you will be treated like one.. i dont think your cosister's family are in a position to understand your discomfort even if you let them know subtly because if they are that understanding ,you wouldn't be in the position which you are currently. I guess you must be more blunt in letting them know that you are not pleased with their stay. First your husband must come to know/understand about how you feel.Have you ever vented out your frustration to him and inspite of that , he is conveniently turning blind when it suits him?! :rant
First step, see if you can try this..stop cooking for 5 ppl like a dutiful wife and tell your husband you are very tired by the time you come home from office and it is difficult to manage cooking,taking care of toddler even with a maid who is not very happy with the extraload..ask him to get food from outside..try doing this for a week..may be looking at the dent to his pocket,he will get some hint about what you are going through:cheers
Is staying in your parents house for few days a convenient option for you? Do you have work from home (WFH) option in which case you can take your daughter and WFH from your parents house for few days (better not to let your husband know about number of days so that they think it is indefinite time).you can say you are too tired and want to take rest for few days when asked. If WFH is not an option,can you take off ?
The whole point is staying away from the house for few days so that the bunch of brainless (please pardon my language) in your house come to know your worth and learn to behave properly like matured people. I think if you let it happen in the current way its happening,none one in your house will ever realize that something is amiss/some one is unhappy in the house !:thumbsup

 

Maid is a maid. But time is not on your side now. So suck up. First, get the guests out (or get them to stop feeling like guests) and once your life is bk to normal, you can straighten the maid. Prioritize things, plan, sugar coat and get what you want....there are going to be difficult days, be patient.