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My Mother-in-love

Discussion in 'Snippets of Life (Non-Fiction)' started by jayasala42, May 12, 2019.

  1. jayasala42

    jayasala42 IL Hall of Fame

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    Dear Agatha,
    Thank you very much the kind response. We were used to orthodox way of living , as we were brought up in the village.
    But in the city life, to follow conventional practices as working woman is somewhat difficult. Being widowed at the age of 28, my MIL could not come out of her orthodoxy. But her other positive traits were so exemplary that the orthodox behaviour was nothing and broke into pieces compared to the golden character.
    I shall cite an example.My daughter was having X std public exam, maths and she had her monthly time. She had wrongly answered one two mark question and as a bright maths student she was totally upset.She came home and in her depression threw away her Geometry box which contained her kerchief also.The box opened and the kerchief fell on the almirah containing all washed and dried clothes.
    My MIl without getting angry with my daughter took out all the clothes, sarees, petticoats, uniforms, undergarments around 40 to 50 , put them in two buckets of water, rinsed them and kept them for drying in the open terrace.She took a bath. Felt very tired.My daughter was busy reading for the next exam.
    When I came home at 6 P. M. even from the corner of the street I could see many clothes hanging in the terrace.
    On coming home, the mami staying behind our house enquired in front of my MIL whether any death had taken place in our house and why so many clothes were being dried.
    I was simply keeping quiet as I didn't know what happened.After that mami left,
    My MIl explained what happened.But she felt very bad and said that she had gained nothing out of this primitive act of hers except a little 'ego' satisfaction. She felt sorry and regretted for her rustic behaviour which had caused some wrong impression( inauspicious) in the minds of others.She cursed herself how she failed to understand the emotions of the child and how even a single mark was significant for a bright girl.She went to my daughter 50 years younger to her and consoled her.We were terribly moved. By contrast I could imagine any other MIL would have complained about the grand daughter for not having'aachaaram etc etc.
    There are many more instances where I was stunned by her action.It was never a pretence
    just to satisfy me or anyone.
    jayasala 42
     
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    hermitcrab Platinum IL'ite

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    very nice write up Jaysala ma'am.
    I wish I had such nice MIL..
     
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    Dear hermitcrab,
    thank you madam. No doubt I was very lucky.Because of this understanding we were able to manage many critical situations in the family.
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    satchitananda Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    Dear JS Ma'am

    so heart-warming to hear of such a warm and affectionate MIL. Wish everybody could have such wonderful MILs. For that may be one has to have done a lot of punyam in the past.

    Lovely to read your happy memories.
     
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    Thank you madam.Definitely I consider myself very fortunate to have such a great MIL, in a period dominated by so called Woman Hitlers.I was the youngest in the joint family and when I got married my father was74.
    My having been blessed with a good MIL was a great relief to my parents in their old age.Setting aside the normal tendency, she definitely sought my opinion ( of a vadhu) in many matters just to have confirmation and never hesitated to correct herself if she was wrong.Normally egoistic MIL s will never do it and they would substantiate their stand fully knowing they are wrong.This was very rare in MILs of those days.
    Jayasala 42
     
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