My mind knows it but my heart definitely need more. Kindly help ladies

First of all, I am lucky to have a wonderful family. My husband has given me complete freedom to pursue my interest. Never questions my spending but definitely has a opinion that he should work hard, earn well and spend only for his wife's happiness. He saves for rainy day bu never asks me to control my spending as he feels its my money and that I have right to spend. At time, he will ask for help for me but sooner or later he will pay back the money. Always keeps saying " I am earning for you dear".

He never had any complaint about me. In simple words, he never expects anything from me. That's what I feel or he is not telling me?? I have asked him n number of times like what he wants from me so that I can keep him happy. he keeps telling " Your happiness is important for me. I don't want anything else from you". (How can he be without expectations?) But as a wife, I expect a lot from him. I want him to speak out when I share something with him. But he listens. That's it. Nothing more he does. But I know that he feels bad if I feel bad for anything. (For example: I feel a lot to him saying that I couldn't conceive. He will listen. But doesn't open his mouth. If I shout at him, why don't you say something, He will simply say " Don't worry. We will definitely have a kid. But in heart he will feel for me. He doesn't show it out.) What I am trying to say is, he doesn't know to express his love. But i wish I will be happy if he openly expresses his love. Sometimes he says, " I seriously don't know how to express my love". But I am of the type, he takes me out to a candlelight dinner/or out to beach on a warm evening/ or even to a temple/ says things out when I share my problems with him. He doesn't initiate these things. But if I ask, he doesn't say no. He doesn't surprise me with birthday gifts/surprise kiss or any kind of surprise. I wish he gets me a birthday cake without my knowledge and surprises me. But he will go out and If I ring him up and ask where he is , he will simply say that he is buying a cake for me.

I don't know how to explain in a comprehensive manner. Hope you girls can understand me at least to some extent. What shall I do to feel good in spite of these petty issues? I am wrong? or he is wrong? May be I am comparing myself with my other friends who feel happy with their hubby's surprise gifts on their birthday? I wish he could be more romantic. We are married for 2.5 years. Girls, its not just about gifts. What I expect is.... Hope you girls can understand me.

 

Its not that I am feeling bad or I am not happy with him. In fact, in the beginning itself I have mentioned that I am lucky to have him. I just felt that it would be good if he does all those silly things to me. and I just wished that he could be more romantic.

Anyway, thanks for the suggestion. Will try to go by your advice. Thanks dear

 

Yes. Right?? Thanks for pointing it out

 

Will do yellowmango. Thank you

 

Very True. I am really lucky to have him.