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My Kid Is Not Good At Classical Dance:(

Discussion in 'Miscellaneous in Parenting' started by anika987, Dec 17, 2018.

  1. anika987

    anika987 IL Hall of Fame

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    I have learnt classical dance and basically love dancing.Have done some performances all the time back in school,college and even now at times be it classical,fusion or western.

    I put my kid in a dance class and she is doing quite ok.The poor thing is trying to focus and doing her best.However she gets tired and is not so interested honestly.I am trying my best though.she finally said she hates classical.


    I totally understand we cannot force kids to do as per our interest.However,the disappointment that my kid does not want to learn dance is unsettling.I am sure I will be ok but just some views from your side to cheer me up will be good:)
     
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  2. rachaputi

    rachaputi Platinum IL'ite

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    I take this opportunity to make your daughter's point :). My mom used to force me to all the competitions singing, fancy dress etc.. I used to enjoy till my teenage. It's dropped down my performance to poor level and was exhausted very quick.

    Coming to mom place: just like you I get upset very bad when my daughter shows negligible effort towards something. I give gyan, scream, and finally calm down :(.

    Their age is something that they want to enjoy where they find it, we can suggest and force to some extent, can't make to feel thirsty about it.

    Go back to your childhood days, you may find one irky situation to feel/understand her heart :)
     
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    Rihana IL Hall of Fame

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    Do better at your best. How good is your best so far? I once started teaching an activity I badly wanted my kid to get more interested in. Unless you start your own dance school you have not tried your best.

    : )
     
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    Nice idea. One old friend (a college professor) has such a hobby. She can easily get access to a nice dance studio (basketball court) on campus.
     
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    :hello:Every person created by the Great Designer with unique talent which one must strive to identify. Children read kids are exposed to varieties of streams and they themself stick to a particular line and get preoccupied with that for quite long.

    A Japanese research adopts this method and in the nursery and kindergarten level in a large hall with numerous equipment and accessories- kids are all left to choose and play. In ccTV PARENTS WATCH AND IDENTIFY THE POSSIBLE UNIQUE TALENT OR TALENTS OF THEIR WARDS and provide more impetus for children to learn and pursue that identified talent or talents.
    2. A child fond of playing in water identified thus turn Olympic participant for their Nation. Some learn toward varying tones of music and colour turned in later years celebrated painter and musician.
    In England two seniors happen to watch a lanky man kicking the dogs with his foot backwards while he was rummaging the food in the street dustbin and the seniors took him to his club and trained. He became a great asset in the form of football player for the Nation and won World Cup.
    3. So parental pressure to kids to make them achieve what they (parents) were deprived off is often misfires leading to depression in the family.
    4. Cricket champion batsmen Tendulkar and Broadman were thus identified in their early childhood never did doctorate or engaged in economics but proved their mettle and remained glorious till they retired from their chosen pursuit.
    5. May I wish Godspeed to your girl for great accomplishments in her future career and other productive pursuits.

    Regards.
    God bless.
     
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  6. anika987

    anika987 IL Hall of Fame

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    Ha ha good one:)
     
  7. anika987

    anika987 IL Hall of Fame

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    My child loves food and watches food blogs with me:(

    She says that’s her favorite activity..wow!

    I am like “oh my”:eek:
     
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    I completely understand your situation. I love singing and learned carnatic.My DD also got training for 4 years, then her interest started to divert and she said she can`t spend her time in practising and learning carnatic. Further the teacher is also demotivating and saying if you have real interest you should learn otherwise no no. Finally the day came and she quit.
    Still it is pricking in my mind. My DD has the capability and it was so nice to listen her singing. Now I have to go with the flow of the life it takes, that`s it.
     
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    Four years is not so bad :)

    Maybe after a year please try again.Hope all will be fine
     
  10. Thyagarajan

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    :hello: Absolutely nothing to worry. Let her pursue what he likes the best. She would turn out to be a world acclaimed or and renowned CHEF : might author best seller wonderful recipe book .
    Regards.
    God Bless.
     
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