My Husband Says That I Have To Make Something Special On Weekends Especially On Sunday!

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  1. Sreevidyaa

    Sreevidyaa Silver IL'ite

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    I am sorry to hear that your husband is such a self centred person. In which case you take of your health and let him cook his own specials. There is no need for you to do specials when he is so selfish. Seems all he cares is about himself.
     
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    Needtobestrong Platinum IL'ite

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    That's very selfish of him..cook special meals during the weekend if you have to , but also make sure he gives you the required help and appreciation for your efforts.
     
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  3. indubalram

    indubalram IL Hall of Fame

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    Ya ok but I don’t want any of his appreciation! I’m good if doesn’t bother me
     
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  4. DDream

    DDream Platinum IL'ite

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    If you dont want to cook, dont cook
    If you like to eat something good, cook for you and enjoy.
    If you like to share food , pl share
    If you dont want to share, dont share.
    If you like to cook for your husband, do it with sincerity and dont expecting anything

    There are only two options, YES or NO.
    But you are suffering, because you don't know what to chose, so confused
    Do something, select one option and make peace with it.
    No need to give explanation to him or anyone. Do what you think is right.
     
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  5. indubalram

    indubalram IL Hall of Fame

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    Na na Im not expecting anything. I was just venting! I will cook only when I want to. I tell him straight. And ya nowadays he is changing and I like that! I’m slowly getting over my stress and depression. I’m getting over my problems and I can feel the change in my life!
     
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    SGBV IL Hall of Fame

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    So, he is that husband who doesn't want to spend for the family, doesn't share the household chore and give you so much responsibilities and stress at the end of the day .

    I just went through your other thread and understood your state of relationship.

    OK, if i were you, i would tell him "NO". A straight no to his request and go on with my usual way of cooking.

    If i like an elaborate lunch i would cook & share with him. If i don't feel like cooking, i would keep it simple & take my time in resting.

    Why would you cook & do things out of your way to someone who doesn't even care for you?

    Stand up, at least now
     
  7. Rihana

    Rihana Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    I gather from your post in another thread that you have been through medical treatments and challenges that are not routine.

    Like yoga and exercise teachers say: "You do you." It's good to read that you are already doing this. And also good to read about the financially independent part.

    He is a grown man. If the weekdays and job are stressful, he can find ways to independently decompress in the weekend. He could venture into the kitchen himself and try his hand at cooking. There are numerous cooking blogs with easy recipes for delicious dishes.

    In a relationship that is mostly happy, loving and caring, it works if the husband asks for something special to be cooked. In such a relationship, the husband would also go out of his way to meet some of the wife's requests. With that not being the case here, do what you feel like. And do that guilt free. Any comments about the food should be in one ear out the other.
     
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  8. DDream

    DDream Platinum IL'ite

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    Great. If you feel that he is making an effort, then take a positive step from your side as well including cooking something he likes without any expectations. But be cautious of not being used or disrespected. Like you said, if you dont like something dont do it and define boundary well, so he knows where to stop. But always keep yourself as your top priority. Wishing you happy and peaceful days ahead.
     
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  9. indubalram

    indubalram IL Hall of Fame

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    Thanks for your kind words means a lot!
     
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    Cannot remark in full without knowing your entire situation but seems to be a reasonable request that many ppl acquiesce to in their household.
     

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