My husband is calling me back home

(forgiver and) Forgiveness offered in haste without true repentance will never be respected.
His mistakes were not accidental ones.

 

hi swapna

if you feel from deep inside that he has not realized his mistakes or not changed from the past behavior, please wait and dont rush. if tomorrow he again abuse you, and you come back, the cycle repeats and you will again be in the receiving end. so please discuss with your parents and i suggest you both go for counselling before you join him

 

Hi swapna

Sometimes people do realise their mistakes and want thing back to normal. Its only you who can feel and determine what you want to do next. If your heart truly goes out to him go back again.. and start fresh. if u truly believe he would give u respect all ur deserved and do not harm u physically or mentally.

Although I didnt like the way he said he didnt want ur parents to involve in this, real mens would not fear or run from anything..(my personal experience says it) and also he doent have anyone to cook for him..so he wants you back...for gods sake..does he need a cook or WIFE??

 

God had given two great attributes to human's.Which are Forget and Forgive.

Depends on the incident, you can forgive him. But, physical abuse is not accepted at any cost. Talk to him and explain the consequences if it happens again. Let him Realize the mistake, untill then dont use God's attributes.

And make sure, you are wife and not Cook in his mother's absence.

 

hi,
you have mentioned kids.........are you married for many years?...........how was his behaviour in past(before beating incident)..........did you provoke him with harsh words.........did his mother try to stop him.........where were the kids at that time.......

if that was the sole incident in your married life then he can be forgiven once.......

if his mother tried to stop him then she could be forgiven & allowed to visit you otherwise strictly put condition that she should not visit you(which woman would let someone beat other woman,child or animal without protesting...........if she did not in your case she in vindictive & will cause problems again)............

if your kids were present they need to be told by their father that Dad has promised not to beat Mom again & so we are going back..........

yes,he may be ashamed to face your Mom,don't make issue out of it.............many men feel shy of accepting that they geniuenly miss wife specially after such incidents & try to convince her by saying that they miss her cooking or they miss kids........try to judge if that is the reason in your case.....

and if you feel it will help , you can ask your Mom to accompany you for a week & then ask her to visit after 6 months again......

 

Follow your instincts. This is the only advice that I could give you now.

You seems to be a matured working woman with kids. You are aware of the problem and the root cause of it. You have talked to your husband now, and seen his body language, style and method of expression - Which is fair enough to judge someone who is very familiar to you.

I also had a separation sometimes back, and when my husband wanted this patch up, I only demanded one thing, that the root cause of our problem should be identified and never repeated again. He agreed, and we moved on. But most of my friends, colleagues and relatives had resentments towards our reunification. They all feared as I am trying to fish in the hot water, and gonna fail this time too. But I just followed my instinct. Touch wood, by the grace of God we are happy and peaceful in our lives now.

I basically say this, because you only know him, you only experienced the problem, and everything related to that. Others (including us) can comment based on the minimum info that you have summarized here. Everyone's perception, tolerant level, and readiness to forgive and forget is different. So, please have some time to analyze your issue in a broader view and come to a decision. You are no more a single woman, but a mother. Please be reminded of this facts too. Your decision should not affect your kids.

 

I suggest u take a legal opinion and make sure he knows u will take legal action, next time he lifts his hand on you or kids.