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My husband has lost interest in making love after having a kid

Discussion in 'Married Life' started by apurvang, May 25, 2010.

  1. apurvang

    apurvang New IL'ite

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    Hi ,

    We have been married for last five years.And Have a son who is 1 and half yrs old now. Me and my hubby didn't have relation since i was conceived.We didn't have relation for all most 2yrs .But now when I ask him refresh our sex life he is least interested.I have not put on any weight after delivary. And My hubby is also very faithful to me.But somehow he has lost that interest .I have discussed the issue with him he says he feels tired at night,less romatic and quite stressed due to his office work.Just give me some tips so that I can energize him and bring back our old beautiful days..please suggest some tips or tablets which my hubby should take to bring back healthy sexlife.:)

    Luv,
    ang.
     
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  2. psd1955

    psd1955 Senior IL'ite

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    I think there are a lot of ideas on this subject in this forum.

    First try to ascertain the cause for this lack of interest. It could be quite deep rooted. Maybe seeking the help of a good counsellor may be a good idea.

    Prad
     
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  3. mstrue

    mstrue New IL'ite

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    Prad, I am afraid that this might deviate the thread to greater lengths and OP might be left wondering. May be you can start a thread on such hypothetical case while this thread can be left designated to OP's personal problem.. I believe OP's case is not a perpetual loss of interest.. What say you?!:)
     
  4. Priya_Mommy

    Priya_Mommy Gold IL'ite

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    I have a doubt!!
    May be they are cautious that again it may lead to another pregnancy.
    Discuss with him abour your contraceptive options. Definitely a great life ahead.
     
  5. GiJoe

    GiJoe Silver IL'ite

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    You have not provided enough details to provide any solution.

    Did you speak to your DH about this problem?
    Did he say that he is not interested in having sex?
    Are you getting quality time together?

    First find out why he is not interested then you can find a solution. To have intercourse or not to have intercourse during pregnancy is your personal choice but that should have not stopped you being intimate and spending time together as couples during pregnancy.
     
  6. Spiderman1

    Spiderman1 Gold IL'ite

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    Sit down and have an open discussion. Maybe there are reasons which are deeprooted like others have mentioned. Some underlying issues perhaps and a counselor can sometimes help as well.
     
  7. ShilpaMa

    ShilpaMa IL Hall of Fame

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    Apurva, you need to tell about the overall relationship status with DH and his extended family and his workplace pressure...
     
  8. mstrue

    mstrue New IL'ite

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    .... and if online resources are replacing you...
     
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    sarma Senior IL'ite

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    Was he in the delivery room at the time? Some people can take sanyaas witnessing something like that :)

    Seriously, if he is tired, take a vacation together. Create opportunities. If he is very tired, give him a massage! C'mon you can get creative!
     

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