What would our grandmas think about the way we are with our inlaws these days?? My grandma 89yrs old, a very talented lady in knitting, crochet, cross-stitch,emroidery and an excellent cook. She studied till 7th grade and was considered highly educated those days. She had 10 kids. Purely agricultural family. Worked from 4am to 10-11pm in and outside house(on farm if needed). She said if given a choice she WOULD NEVER opt to LIVE SEPARATELY from her inlaws. I thought wow!! her inlaws were great then. She said and my dad and uncles and aunts confirmed that her MIL was a neat freak, a strict and authoritative MIL. I asked her is it because that is all ingrained in you ladies those days that you have to live with your inlaws, that you are saying so. She said, NO, it is not that., even if I was independent like you I do not consider living like how you do. Even though we had lot of differences but living together brought us closer, understand our differences and temperments and adjust and learn to tolerate each other better. She was infact saying this generation ladies are running away from inlaws because more than anything goes wrong or not they are not having that attitude of adjusting to one another's differences and having patience and respecting elders. In the name of individualism, independence they are actually not seeing the good in that way of living together. There are so many good things and warm moments you can have but you are always assuming only the negative.....sometimes even before some bad happens or not. What do you say ILites here??