Once I happened to mention to my parents recently how my SIL ridiculed me & her DH on our first luch table post wedding that there were 2 outsiders on this table.... to this my dad had 2 replies: 1) Its inappropriate & her parents shud have corrected her. 2) Its the daughter who becomes an outsider after her marriage and DIL an inseperable part. 1) is not applicable to my IL family & 2) I replied not all families think that way. It was a moment of sheer agony for me, as it was reconfirmed I neither belong to this house nor to my ILaws post wedding. He felt an almost instant reaction from me & realised what he spoke.. however this was the ideology he saw in his life... and me stuck with families with different ideology!!!! Does GOD purposely put you in this situation to feel like an orphan or its the ppl around you?