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My brother is seperated from his wife, I am depressed

Discussion in 'Life Without Spouse' started by skalluri, May 18, 2010.

  1. coolphani

    coolphani Bronze IL'ite

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    Isn't he the one who determines our destiny?:crazy
     
    Last edited: May 22, 2010
  2. Happysoul1234

    Happysoul1234 Gold IL'ite

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    Yes he does!

    But I think we should be held accountable for actions too! Not to generalize about all "bad spouse choices" but in my brother's case, the signs were all there that he was making a bad choice. His friends told him so, his family told him so, the girl's extended family told him so. But he still chose to go ahead with the marriage, suffered and got divorced. So he bought it upon himself I feel, and in turn, made me and my mom suffer too.

    Good thing is that when he got married the 2nd time, he made sure my mom and I also liked the girl (love love love love my bhabhi!).
     
  3. Tridev

    Tridev Silver IL'ite

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    Lucky are those who suffered in first marriage and get a better partner next time. The second time can be more better infact as one would know how better a person or spouse can be and what it means to lead a happy married life :thumbsup
     
  4. Happysoul1234

    Happysoul1234 Gold IL'ite

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    For once I agree with you Tridev. 2nd time marriages work out better since there is the experience of the 1st one to ponder. Infact when my brother was looking around the 2nd time, he only spoke with divorcees because he thought she would better understand what he had gone through.

    But then there are those people who get married again and again and still don't get a clue! You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink!
     
  5. BeeAmma

    BeeAmma Silver IL'ite

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    Sujatha,

    Yes, am in a similar situation. A close family member is in the middle of a separation. I do not know who is to fault, each side is blaming the other--both sides are prone to exaggeration and drama. No mediation on the part of the family is working out and the situation is dragging on.

    There is really not much we can do except pray for them. They are adults and they have to make make choices and go through it. We can only support them and be there for them in case they need us.
     
  6. Tridev

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    Two people who cannot live peacefully and resolve issues, how are they mutually going to resolve seperation that is a big question?

    Uff..Yeh Mohabbat...

     
  7. BeeAmma

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    Yep, tell me about it.
     
  8. Spiderman1

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    Sorry to hear that Bee.

    havent seen u around, hope u doin ok.
     
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  9. BeeAmma

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    Thanks for inquiring Spiderman. Was taken a sabbatical from the forum to recharge. Back with a gusto :).
     
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    I should do this soon :)
     

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