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Mrs. Movie (remake Of The Great Indian Kitchen)

Discussion in 'Movies' started by Rihana, Feb 11, 2025.

  1. Rihana

    Rihana Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    @DDream, in #30 above, my post is quoted, but I honestly don't understand what your post is trying to convey. I will lay the blame for this on my own rambling posts that are touching upon too many things at the same time.

    My main point for this thread is:

    Movies show people following the traditional arranged marriage method with a few accommodations like the girl and boy talk privately or meet once or twice. There’s no real "getting to know each other" period, no discussion of future goals, nothing. On this outdated (?) framework, they portray the woman with modern aspirations like wanting a career, expecting a wavelength matching partner, including in intimacy. This clash between an old system and modern expectations feels odd. Why do educated people choose this path while expecting something it was never designed for?​

    We think divorce rate is rising due to women being more independent, educated, earning etc. My question was is the divorce rate also going up due to women (and men) not doing due diligence in arranged marriages?​

    And I am all for the divorce rate going up as that may actually mean there are lesser unhappy marriages around us.
     
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    Thanks for the clarification.
    What about failed love marriages and divorce rate from that. Its not less than those from arranged marriages. Even with all the getting to know well, with expectations, discussions marriage fails divorce rate increase like @beautifullife30 mentioned about their friends circle. So what I am trying to say is evenif one go for arranged marriage, still happening in India , there are many who enjoy a career, good intimacy etc... So its not about how we got married, how we lead our life later. Promises, agreement, discussions before marriage alone wont give everything modern marriage expects, even if its love marriage.

    Many men even with modern outlook outside still expect traditional roles from wife, so this conflict will be there.

    So, in a movie, how can they show all, at least in this movie, they have shown info on , girls consent, their meeting in a restaurant before marriage , that luxury is not there for real arranged marriages. How can we get to know very well without living with a person. I dont know if our society is still ready to accept girls living with partner before marriage. Atleast in metros it's happening and some movies shows that too.

    New trend is not to marry, many women are not ready for arranged marriage or even marriage. Enjoying their life till they are ready and find a good partner, still no guarantee that it wont end up in divorce. But in rural India, the old systems continues,. So the conflict you are talking is real, in real life and reel life.
     
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