If your husband is financially supporting his family with US salary can you afford to do the same with Indian earnings?
I r2ied when my son was 12 yr old.We have our apartment in a great community so my son made lots of friends and I participate in community events and festtivs.Our relatives ,family live far away from us ,but we visit sometimes.If you have questions and concerns on r2i ,living expenses ,schools join r2imom fb group and join r2i local watsaap group This will help
i can not join fb group , as this is just a thought in my mind. My H is not in same alignment yet but i know deep down, he misses. We visit india every year inspite of so much of money spent on ILs medical. Also when we were H1B issues, we were really ready to move back , we never had scare of not being able to stay in america. only in my initial years, i struggled a lot of job, h1- h4- h1-h4, so that was tough time and it never crossed me to move that time. I did not want to go back as failure to hear she cd not settle there. But now i do not fear all that, mentally i am much stronger. Also reason for avoiding FB group, other people (friends/co worker ) might find out. But i wd really want to find out your thoughts. How long did u live in US? Where did u move? We are not from one of IT hub states and also we are in mid- 40s, which means we can not restart life. I do not want to do dev job and compete with mid - 20s people in india. India culture is different, and people grow in career with age. By my age, i shd be project manager etc. US is different in that way. Moreever, reason is to be near parents so will move close to parents so only way is - business, startup, one person with job . I was told monthly expense can be 50K rs in india for family if we are stinging on many things.
OP do the numbers. emotional reasons aside. you can even keep this forum for better brainstorming based on that. things like your savings, money from selling home in usa. do you and your spouse have job there. salary. then school. and parents and ils and entertainment.
I am moved by your concerns and anxiety on relocating to India.While I am not attempting a rosy picture things are not bad here at all.A 3 Bhk house in an upmarket complex will cost around RS 20 million.Maids cost around 1500/2000 per hour per month.Take a house near Metro station so that commutation becomes easy.Satellite towns like Coimbatore are coming up well and IT professionals are shifting there.All these are on the assumption that you get job here.It is better to shift when the children are young as adjustment becomes difficult at a later stage.A middle aged couple shifted from US five years back and now they have shifted back to US after sons completed 12 th grade.Welcome to India-my blessings and good wishes.
Monthly expenses solely depend on personal /family life style and city where you are residing.You own a house or rent a house,type of car you want to drive,upscale schools you choose for your kids and number of extra curricular activities you want for your kids etc.Good thing is India promotes start up culture and you can explore.Age doesn't matter ,only skills matter. Wfh is so common these days for techie people and people manage their life with a cook and a maid ,door delivery of food etc.You will need tones of info before moving to India.I will suggest you create diff ID and explore those groups. You will get better clarity and suggestions there if you are serious abt R2I
Problems are in every country. I think struggle is every where. I when moved to US could not see my parents for 4 years. That is struggle. Everything was changed by then. Here gun violence or racist attacks on your kid because of their indian origin are too much than bullying in india. I hate that my 5 yr wont take indian lunch or even open indian lunch box in school. I do not know where he learnt he is brown from . That's when he was 4. What problems are in future with kids growing here, i dread that. Atleast in india family is around to stand with you in problems. Mostly life goes good here, its very much 9-5 routine life, nothing can go out of order, like guest staying for tea on weekday, kids play date on weekday can not extend beyond 7, kids have to wake up on time, sleep on time. if some day something happens , like at school , then do not know how will i deal with it and will repent for life. India is super expensive and easier for people who s been living there, they have all the set up and driving license etc. For us, it will be much harder. Also place where i wanted to live, is not very IT concentrated so that is all we need to plan. And one person needs to keep working is another problem. Here schools are near by, still takes 45 mins to reach home.I am thinking of b'glore type city schools. To women who live in india, and if working, How working women deal with cooking cleaning everyday and when kids come early from school, we hv to be there. WE can not have maid inside hole all day and mornings are rush hours. In US, one of us reach home early before school closes.
Working women here mostly has maids.Some family's employ cooks too.My friend has 1 cook for morning rush hrs ,1 maid who comes in the eve when her son comes from school and present at home for couple of hrs. So it's doable and manageable.If you are in a greater community life is much easier.Because you always get maids, cooks ,cleaners ,drivers and what not.But yeah traffic and unclean roads will irritate you here
