I am in the process of divorce, i am very much worried about my children. especially my younger one who is 9 . my soon to be ex is a covert narcissist. I cannot get bankrupt fighting for 100% custody, so if i get 50%. How do i motivate my kids. So far i have taken care of my kids along with work. My wife does take care but once my support is gone, she will flip out and pour her issues on the kids. any suggestion would help. please note : i am not looking for discussions on analyzing if she really is a narc or not. My question is only pertaining to kids. like how to teach them to handle their emotions and kindness but firmness when they are with me and apply them same. any single parents who go through this also please suggest.