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Mother in law only wants to eat and nothing else

Discussion in 'Relationship With In-Laws' started by cheesecake, Nov 14, 2015.

  1. cheesecake

    cheesecake Senior IL'ite

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    My mother in law is only worried about one thing. food!she is worried about what to cook everyday and then if i delay cooking she will say:why no chapathi today or what or sabji today? I hate her. no help only eating and she is such a fat ass also.always complaining and i didnt go to any friends party thinking she will get bored and wont feell good but instead she tell me i wont adjust in parties or eat outside.she thinks i am like her boring and reserved.i love to party but she is so orthodox.my life is so boring and hell.i wish she goes back soon.countdown begin.
     
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  2. lavii

    lavii Gold IL'ite

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    Woahhhh..I am perplexed to see you calling her Fat ass for not helping in cooking and only questioning you about food.
    While i can understand how bothersome it is if someone is micromanaging your cooking, i fail to understand the language.

    My 2 cents would be be expressive.If you are really sacrificing going to friends party's just for your MIL did you ever say so ?And why do you feel she may get bored if its a one day affair every week ?
    Did you ask for help in cooking before?
    May be if your MIL is one who gets flattered easily start appreciating her cooking and may be she helps you everyday.
    Lesson for my life was not being expressive when i had to be..Please ask for help before you start thinking back of your mind what if someone says NO.
    P.S. i dint read your previous posts so please excuse if there is something i am missing
     
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    Ragini25 Platinum IL'ite

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    Lakshmipav Silver IL'ite

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    How about making a cheesecake today ..
     
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    kcb IL Hall of Fame

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    For example - what will be your reaction if your SIL (Brother's wife or Bhabhi) calls her MIL (your mother) as fat ass?

    I feel it's too rude & disrespectful.....
     
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  6. cheesecake

    cheesecake Senior IL'ite

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    Fat ass is a common slang used for overweight and hated person.
    Not a big deal..i didnt just did ****** this which could mean anything. :). You might have the worlds best mil.nobody likes their dh mother and thats the universal truth.
     
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    thegirlygirl Platinum IL'ite

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    MIL or someone else using such derogatory words for anyone is not good and certainly not on a respected forum like ours.

    What is worse is that you are justifying an overweight individual being called 'fat ass'.

    There could be such 'slang' words for DILs like you........ how about somebody using them for you? waitingsmiley
     
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  8. Lakshmipav

    Lakshmipav Silver IL'ite

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    oh really ..then y did u marry someone who has mother ..just to hate her ..pity on u ..

    dont forget ur mom is mil to someone n u will mil to someone so prepare for the hatred ..don't make it generalize like no one likes husband's mother not everyone is like u either not everyone like me ..

    give respect at least for her age she is mother of ur husband n overweight is not a sin ..
     
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    Ragini25 Platinum IL'ite

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    Oh really, then why marry in the first place?
    Oh, the appendage thingamajigaa is good to have, but but the one who gave birth is a burden appendage, nice. Pls. continue being the way you are, what goes around will come around eventually.

    You can try to cover it under 'slang', yep we are familiar with slang and what means what in what context.
     
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  10. cheesecake

    cheesecake Senior IL'ite

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    You all took it so seriously.still i would say no body in the world agrees n likes everything dh mother does or says so its universal.like really its never the same like what it is with own mother.this doesnt mean i yell or fight or not respect her.just venting out the prob.and about being derogatory,u all thinking in your own mind that i am bad is also derogatory.:).of course people would call me names too n i accept this fact.cmon lets be practical.
     

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