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Mother In Law Has Me Blocked On Her Phone...?

Discussion in 'Relationship With In-Laws' started by Patientone, Aug 30, 2020.

  1. Patientone

    Patientone Bronze IL'ite

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    How would you deal with this? Ignore it? I’ve spoken to my husband about it and he said she doesn’t know how to use her phone. This is a lie because she know how to delete messages, put statuses up, connect to WiFi etc. Yesterday she group called my husbands phone with my brother in law, his wife, husbands sister and her husband. I wasn’t involved. He didn’t pick up. But I saw it later. Obviously she doesn’t want anything to do with me. She tried very hard to split me and my husband apart (if you know of my history in previous threads etc) She gets upset at my husband doing things for me. She’s angry at him that we’re having another baby after all her meddling.
     
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  2. MalStrom

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    I would silently give a big prayer of thanks
     
  3. Thyagarajan

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    This could SET AN AGENDA AND INCLUDE in IT for INTERNATIONAL world DIL's DAY the Next due on first jan 2021. It would be a double or treble celebration. You know why! Beca it includes new year and your happy birth anni.

    Her blocking on her phone is your delight. Enjoy. You treat this as a silver lining in dark clouds. It is blessing in disguise. Break coconut to Lord Vinayak for this act of kindness. Celebrate this moment by making kheer and distribute among your friends that includes your DH.
    Regards.
     
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    Desiindian Silver IL'ite

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    If she connects with you again, after sometimes old complaint and nagging would continue, better celebrate her silence.
     
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    happydheivanai Silver IL'ite

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    This is a right time to count your blessing and celebrate... start your happy life ...
     
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    sarvantaryamini Gold IL'ite

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    :tearsofjoy: , true, but we DILs worry about this too. Such a windfall of a sudden is too much to handle.
     
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    abc00 Gold IL'ite

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    OP, consider yourself blessed that you don't have to deal with any more mudslinging with MIL.Celebrate this moment. Abhi tho party shuru hui hai !! Adopt the policy of live and let live. She's miles away from you now so stay happy. Look at the brighter things of life, you make the most out of what is on your hand now. I understand that your hubby's side of family didn't involve you in conversations but trust me it is for your good. You think that - Less is More - and it will give you peace.

    If you still aren't convinced with any answers or still have that resentment, then you too go ahead and block her. Bas,baat khatm !!
     
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    SGBV Finest Post Winner

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    I would celebrate if MIL blocked our family (including H and kids) in that conference call.

    What is there to celebrate when your H is part of their conference, which may or may not trigger family issues against you.
    I would rather advice you to be careful and observe !!!

    There can be 2 reasons behind MIL's blocking, unless it is purely a technical issue.
    1- MIL wants to discuss something against you - To prove something to your H at your absence, of course with the support of her allies
    2 - MIL considers you as an outsider; hence ignored you in the group call that talks family matters. If your H agrees & participates in that call further, it approves of her decision, which may belittle you.

    If I were you, I would ask H to

    1- Not accept such group calls if they don't involve you
    2- Add you to the call, if possible
    3- In case if he mistakenly accepts and participates in such group chat, he must be aware of the fact that there may be possibly something is planned against his wife. So, he must be prepared to demand your presence during the call. Else, he must be able to speak on behalf of you to shut them off.

    2 years back, my MIL did this to my co-sis, and pretended as if she had technical issues; thus co-sis wasn't included in the call.
    She talked ill about co-sis, used another BIL to validate her point before everyone (including the son/H of co-sis). her allegations were serious, and she was almost there to prove her point, as she had alleged witness (her other children).
    Now BIL/H of my co-sis, stopped her. Demanded that his wife should be participating in the call. He added her, and asked MIL to continue.
    MIL was taken aback, the other BIL couldn't complain anymore. And everyone understood the drama before it ended. That was it....
     
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    :hello:I think there is nothing wrong in being ecstatic which one get seldom. Be Happy - Don’t Worry as the song goes...
    Thanks and Regards.
     
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    Gurl!! Put your dance shoes ON and throw a party !!! You have achieved what a lot of us dream about!!!!! Dont fall for her passive aggresive BS- this reaction of yours (guilt) is exactly what she wants. Just walk around as if it does not affect you at all.
     
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