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  1. SKoundinya

    SKoundinya Senior IL'ite

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    Do anyone of you in my situation where mother is living along in India and I am here and feel helpless, guilty, restless that I am not able to see or help her in anyway. On top of it unavoidable family disturbances due to my brothers divorce and he living very far in different state.

    I am not looking for advises here but trying to relate if anybody in a similar boat.
     
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    Hopikrishnan Platinum IL'ite

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    I know someone like that, but a guy. Therefore a little more safe, perhaps.
    • How is your mother...healthwise ?
    • Is she in a secure building/house ? Able to walk out without getting robbed ?
    • Is she able to get food each day ?
    • Can she use a mobile telephone ?
    • Are you in daily conversational contact with her?
    The old guy I know lives alone, he is 71, diabetic (takes medicines each day, and has the danger of overdosing and going into a coma if he doesn't pay attention to dosage or diet), as well as has high bp. However, he is ambulatory, can slowly walk about in his neighbourhood. Visits the vegetable shop everyday to buy some subji making items. Cooks one meal in the afternoon and eats for dinner.

    He has a smart phone with whatsapp. He chats with son (Abu Dhabi) or daughter (New Jersey) each day. If he doesn't chat, his son can send a friend to make sure he is ok.

    Tell us more about your old mum.
     
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    sandhya2020 Silver IL'ite

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    I know you are very worried about your mother.

    Is there a way for you to transfer to India? Do you have any future plans of coming back or plan to settle there?

    If you can't come back , you can take her to visit you for half a year every year, so you will be at peace most of the time.

    Does she have relatives nearby? She should stay in a locality where she has siblings/relatives nearby for emergencies.


    If she has health issues, you can look into old age homes, where she will be taken care of.
     

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