Hi All, I have few issues of mine an wanna share this with all of u and seek ur advice in taking a right decision. I am 32 married for 9yrs and have 2 sons 7 & 3. I am working and was wworking when i got married (love marraige). When i got marroed DH told me u support me for 1 yrs after that i will take care of all house expenses. But now even after 9yrs I am still working and taking care of all house xpenses. My husband was initially working, but later he got this cusioning from my earnings and is so confident on my manegerial skills that he has now become lazy and reluctant to take some serious earnings. Everybody in his family and my family praise me for my contribution in bring my ILs standard high. they were like very lower middle class and I have strived that now we can be counted in upper middleclass lifestyle. I thank god for this. everybody knows this as I have only earned and made this possible. My husband is always dreaming of big big businesses and I have to finance his businesses, apart from taking care of his family (mother and 2 kids and also his sis with 2 kids keep coming and stayin g too often in my house). Slowly I realized that my husband has become a parasite on my earnings. he keeps sitching bussinesses. and each bussiness he looses my money. When i refuse to finance him , mother n son call me selfish, money minded not supporting husband, will go to hell, silent treatment and what not. If none of the things work my husband will give me emotional torture telling he will commit suicide like his father (his father died consuming poison due to some property issues when my husband was 10yr old). Many times I gave in to this emotional torture. and kept on finncing his, taking care of all home needs from rent to grocery to school fees and entertainment expenses. even clothes for him and MIL and even jewellery for my MIL as she was taking care of my kids when I am out for work. My MIL is one big time torturer. always praising her useless son and always giving an impression to everybody (family , friend & even neighbours ) that my son is doing everything and DIL is career minded and wont leave the job even when v r self suffoicient. heartless mother leaves her kids with me an goes for work. having affair in office, bad parents and so on n on. I need one full day to describe her dirty mind and character, which i think will be a waste of mine & ur time. From past 9 yrs I have single handedly managed everything, now enough is enough I gave him strict warning either take care of the house or i will take my kids n go, after that u earn n take care of ur mother. from that day my life has become hell. till i was silently taking care of everything i was a good dil, now suddenly I am this develish woman who is moneyminded, career minded and bad character also. One of the fights my husband picked the holy book and sweared on that he HATES ME and only staying with me bcoz I am taking care of the house... can u belive that... i am giving his daily food .. an dhe hates me ... for wat??? bcoz I work nd financed him for all his failures. he is accusing me of spoiling him and making him dependent on him. U wanted me to be a dog to u so u gave money and made me weak?? I cant believe wat I just heard from his mouth. I have decided I am taking a divorce , and take my kids with me. I need not put up with this sick man. who cant give one rupee for the family n keeps on threatening me he will commit suicide.I am fed up of his suicide drama... his mothers wickedness and his sisters interference. Y shud i put up with all this when i can live peacefully with my kids alone. I will keep a full time maid for kids and my income is more than sufficient for me n my kids. Atleast i dont have to feed 2 grown up parasites and dont have to finance his useless bussiness ventures every 2yrs. please advice whether I am correct. Or shud I just stay seperate from both of them and let him come visit play with kids n go. instead of divorcing we can just be with each other (offcourse in seperate homes) for the sake of kids. as he loves his kids too much. only bad thing is he thinks I am his father not wife, who has to feed him and finance him. please ladies give me sane advice..