Yes I have started to beleive this.Comfort and happiness. I feel the whole world is programmed to believe that love is more important than money. Honestly yes love is great but infele the best kind of love is the one w ecan give it toourself.I feel one can be complete and at ease on their own. Money can buy company to go out if one dosent want to travel solo.Even solo you can travel safe It can pay my bills It can pay for my hobbies It can pay comfort It pays for hospital bills snd support It can pay for security All this loneliness and boredom of being alone is all like..I dont know conditioned Worst come one can afford a very good retirement and safe community and spend time with peers and activities in the later stages Many people are living alone and single. I somewhere fele the world glories relafionships Husband and wife Friendships Relationships Marriages Kids Yes the above is all great but honestly i dont think its a dire need Its just different paths of life Thoughts?
Yes, everything you said is correct but the main condition is that you should have ample amount of money, courage and perfect preparations in advance to live alone. You should have a group of friends who are living in the place you are living or are willing to come to you if you need them or are in a distance near to you so that you can go to them if they need you to support them in times of need. It would be wonderful if you have people who wouldn't misunderstand your viewpoint and will support you till the end and be there for you if needed. If you have such a group in your life then you can think about being alone. BTW which country are you living in right now?
The funny thing about money is - when you have desires, you are not there money-wise yet to fulfill them. But when you reach there, you become devoid of materialistic desires and prefer a minimalistic lifestyle. Yes, money is a basic necessity without which you cannot survive in the world. But how much is needed to survive is so subjective. In India there are daily wage laborers who survive on Rs. 100 a day, take free medical treatment in government run hospitals, send kids to free schools etc. Compare that to someone earning lakhs of rupees a day and yet its not enough for them to run their household due to their lifestyle. The biggest freedom money offers is ability to buy your needs without thinking much. In US of course the story is different. You need money for bills, bills and more bills because nothing is free here. Thats why theres no retirement age and many people end up working till they die. I was calculating how much does one need to put kids through college, maintain current lifestyle and cover medical bills and retire comfortably. I dint even include travel and the figures were mind boggling. No question of retirement even at 60 here in US. To answer your question - can money buy happiness? If materialistic things give you happiness, by all means all the things you stated above that money can buy for you will make you happy. The true question should be - would that happiness be long lasting.....Money to a certain extent that you are not in financial duress is a basic necessity but happiness is free of cost and is intrinsic.
Love should come with “freedom“ Somewhere I feel love is used to “control“ people. In the form of attachments People convince themselves to stay in friendships our relationships and compramising and adjusting so much in the name of love. Are they in love or staying coz they are controlled by guilt and attachments. Through self awarness we step out and find our freedom and yes financial security without debts is needed. That is what i meant by actuslly once you have your idea of finance without dependency nothing else matters.
Money is security. For sure. One need not be a millionarie tonfele secure. I feel people should live life where they arent dependent and debt free. Once that is resolved rest falls in place. Desires and temptations are always going to be there.One should be smart enough to know what desires actually align with them and where to draw a line. World makes you feel guilt and shame for not beong enough and trying more to fullfill the desire. One needs to be smart not to fall in that trap. Saving money is needed for future security.
You dont need ample amount of mpney. You need to live debt free and pay your basics.Work hard for what you want and if not change priorities. World shouldnt dictate what we should prioritize and that is also control. You need company and not friends .Once a person is emotionally indepdnt they can handle themself. Stay in a place wherenyou can feel safe.Money is importsnt for that. Work and sav emoney for basic needs and security. Work harder to pay for your desires. What support does one need? Money pays for daycare to hpspital bills.Money pays fornthe emergency support one needs. People should cultivate self awareness enough to know they can be their own emptional cheerleader.Money can also pay for a therapist if needed. When you seek company there is a lot of freedom. When you seek relationships it comes with unattached rules. In the end we r all alone and a good retirement by paying money is enough support on needs. Work hard and make money.That will suffice.
Again this thread is not about who can afgord and who cannot. Money buys freedom. Maybe that should have been the thread title For me freedom to be who I am give sme peace and happiness.
As a statement it sounds nice to all but secretly people engage in hating someone or some group. Some finds neighbour very play but after few months and some cold or hot exchange they abhor each other. Neither money or penury is a barrier here. World eulogises love of all kinds and categories, but across world is engaged in bitterness and in quarrel or battle. Even with lots of money & fame, Marlin Monroe could not enjoy happiness. Mere affluence is not sufficient or adequate to get a guaranteed happiness for eternity. Happiness always Short Lived. This is decried by no less than a person like JAYA Bhaduri. She advised her grand-daughter Navya not to marry. Jaya Bachchan’s outspoken and fierce personality is not for the faint of heart. Her recent comments on marriage have stirred the pot, and the internet is once again divided. During an interaction with journalist Barkha Dutt on Mojo Story, Bachchan was asked whether she finds the institution of marriage outdated. Her reply? “Yes, absolutely. I don’t want Navya (her granddaughter) to get married.” “I am a grandmother now. Navya turns 28 in a few days. I am too old to advise young girls today on how to bring up children. Things have changed so much. Today, these little children are so smart, and they will smart you,” she further added. Agreeing that the legality of marriage doesn’t define a relationship, she said, “Delhika ladoo hai khao toh mushkil na khao toh mushkil. Just enjoy life. You don’t have to make it (signal with a pen and paper)… we didn’t even sign the register in old times; later on, we found out we had to sign the register, and we signed it after I don’t know how many years of our marriage. That means we were living illegally.” Kruti Shah, cell psychologist at Mpower, Aditya Birla Trust, said that Jaya Bachchan’s recent statement calling marriage “outdated” has resonated widely, not for the controversy but because it reflects a shifting reality. “In therapy, I often see young adults questioning how marriage fits into a world changing faster than tradition. Their honest reflections show that they aren’t dismissing marriage, they’re reshaping it,” she told indianexpress.com. Marriages in many part of the world is no more sacred. But at the same time one think of the quote of English bard, “ whether you marry or not, at age forty you tend to regret”. Better marry and regret. living alone at prime for woman in many parts of the world proved to be dangerous. Even old ones around fifty+ are stalked, raped and robbed. This happened at a huge bungalow near seashore in Chennai outskirts. For company or companion, she kept Labrador, German Shepherd & pomeranians. She dead remained rich while her sons with their family lived ABROAD. PLEASURE and or comfort, always can be bought but happiness not. State of Happiness relates to mental region. Some are determined to remain happy no matter what situation demands. Well said. Indeed. As a young boy, I had lot of energy & time but no money to enjoy happiness read pleasure. As a young man, I had energy and wherewithal but no time to enjoy happiness. As a senior person, I have lots of money and time but no energy to enjoy happiness! Many times person realise that keeping aloof or insulated from kith is far more enjoyable and easy to derive happiness than mixing with the groups that leads to misunderstanding, gossip and other kinds of repercussions.
What should a woman in 40's (who is unemployed) is forced to choose the path (due to various strong and unchangeable circumstances) to give up the idea of getting married and live along with her parents (being a burden to them) while taking care of them and being there for them in their times of need do to secure her future and make her parents feel that she will be ok even in her old age?
