My good friend Rag almost forbade me from more pondering in another thread, but the mind maange more. Wants more. Pondering. After reading all the threads about promises of "we are modern, liberal" etc. made before wedding and merrily broken after, I often wonder why the arranged-marriage planet did not device their own version of the "live together" phase before the actual wedding. Instead of how they do it in the west (i.e., boy-girl live together), we could have girl-future-MIL live together and see how that works out. If that doesn't work out, they can go their separate ways, and no taboo would be broken. This could work out rather well in India for working girls. The girl would move out of her working-woman's hostel, rent a flat, and her proposed MIL would move in with her and share the rent. After six months, then MIL-1 would leave, and a new proposed-MIL-2 would enter under the same arrangement. After the short-listed MIL's have all had their experience, one of them will be chosen for the real life. Momma's boys should like this scheme, because the wife would already come totally housebroken. And there'd be no problems that would put him in the middle. In business school analogy, this would be lease-to-buy. Am I up to something? Time to block some domain names? .