I want to share how i missed Three chances to become self dependent i got married at the younger age of 17 and within three years i got two sons.most of my time was spent to bring up them with good qualities.After they entered school life i was free and had a lot of time .During this period i diverted my mind in crafts like crocheting,bead works,Fabric painting and making bags with plastic wires.This is the common hobby for all women those days.There were two monthly magazines exclusively for women and they published different crafts making.Tutorial for each craft with designs were given which was very easy to follow.These magazines are the main catalyst for my hobbies.At this time an advertisement was given in the news papers calling for the post of telephone operators in Telecom department.S.S.L.C (ELEVENTH STD.)is the educational qualification for this job.My husband was a govt.engineer and we were in Govt.quarters.There were eight houses in that colony and all the taluk head officers were allotted houses . I decided to send application for the job and i shared this with my friends.one of my friend conveyed this to her dh who was a judicial magistrate.Next day morning he called me and said"no need for you to go for a job as you are well sufficient .Then why do you crab the chance from a women who needs the job desperately.Think again and have a good decision"so i dropped the idea to send application.I didn't mistake my neighbour as we all were closely bonded with affection .This is the first opportunity i missed.This happened in 1977. Then again in 1990 one more opportunity was dropped due to request from my family members.Tamilnad govt.was conducting a training for women to bringup women entreprenures. This was two months program held in the District industrial centre.one month class room program and one month Practical classes.Those who conducted the lessons were Bank employees,Entreprenures,faculty from university,Auditors and people from Industries and commerce department.after one month we have to select the business of our choice and prepare a project report.All went well and on the valedictory function they asked me to give vote of Thanks.Visitors were impressed by my speech and i was appreciated by them .Then i got the licence for the small scale industry and the bank officials promised me to grant loan .My father owned a lime kiln in my native as our district has many limestone quarries.Those days no distemper or paints were available and only cem was used to white wash the houses.I got the quotations for the machineries and was in a full swing to start the industry.My brother accompanied me to have cordial meet with chairman of Distict industries and commerce association and he showed a warm welcome.Then went to meet an Auditor to prepare the proper project report to be submitted to the Financial sectors.we were waiting for on hour for the auditor and my brother was upset.He asked me "Do you want to start a business like this waiting for others?This does not suit for our family status?i was stunned by his questions and walked out silently.Again missing opportunity due to other's opinion.He is younger to me but obliged to his views as i needed his help too Third one a job as a shop-in-charge of a jewellery showroom which was also dropped out as my family members didn't like .Now i think why my ambition or desires were not fulfilled /Am i not solid in taking decisions?Friends give your opinions '