Misinterpretation that I am avoiding friends

Dear OP
You may ask them if you can visit them on some specific day n time. Don't wait for them to invite you. They may be afraid that you may again reject to come.

 

Friendship is like love/ marriage. It needs chemistry.

I think relationships are meant to be if it needs to be.

I never understood the concept of working hard for it and trying to please people and hanging out with innumerous friends to find the right one.

if there is chemistry in your friendship,you will go behind it without thinking much and same with the other person.

this is my lesson learnt.

relax and be yourself

 

Dear OP, I think it was a casual invitation from your library friend, she may not be serious about it. If she is serious, then she would have definitely taken your contact number and will plan for it and will invite you some other time.

Generally it happens when we meet someone, just for formality sake people say why don't u come to my place. So don't think about it seriously. If someone seriously need your friendship, then they will definitely give u enough time and will invite you again.

 

Stay in your comfort zone.

If you want a social life, you need to compromise on your personal routines. You may not get enough time for yourself. Larger the social circle, lesser the personal space.
Most of the weekends may be occupied by birthday parties , some celebrations and get togethers.

If you don't want to loose your comfort zone, just convey it to your friends and they will not call you from next time onwards. But you will not be ''in the circle'' anymore.

 

From my experience I have seen that if we want to develop friendships in USA (even though with Indians) there has to be mutual relationship...meaning...one time they call and one time you have to take the initiative. If they have invited you once and you could not go due to whatever reason it might be, you can try and see if it works out to invite them to your house.

Secondly, I have also seen that many people do not pursue on relationships if we do not show interest/avoid/postpone meeting due to any reason. Take this positively that people respect your privacy. I would not get into understanding their point of view for my actions.

Also be prepared to have seasonal friends here. Long lasting friendships are difficult because people move from place to place. Enjoy whatever you get, forget what you dont ! Simple !

 

All friendships need not be family friendships.
If u like a lady and think she is a good company to u start meeting her for coffee/lunch at home or outside, go to malls, or watch movie together even at home etc.

if u see a kid is close to ur kid or mingling well, start inviting them to your home or make a meeting at play place like chucky-cheeze .

u don't need to search friends for ur H, as it will not work, he can call by himself if he interested in somebody.