Mind set of a woman

Dear Kanaka,

I completely agree with you that a woman's enemy is a woman atleast on the domestic front...otherwise how else can a DIL or MIL suffer at the hand of the other. If any family says that they are suffereing because of the male member in the family...then i am sure they can overcome this if all the ladies in the family come together and fight against them unitedly.

MIL forget that they too were DIL once and if they were meted with an indifferent treatment...they shouldn't carry on that saga but treat their DIL well and vice versa.

Warm regards
Roopa.

 

Kanaka,

Women are their own enemies. my FIL always quips, that it is only two women who make life in a joint family miserable,than the gents..and also there are very few examples of males making it miserable.

let us take the example of my own mil. she had a very bad treatment in the hands of her mil. she vouched to my husband, that she will be the mother to his wife..before his marriage...but the MIL factor did rear its head lot of times......(though i did not have any harassment in any form....dowry or anything. )

I hope at least our generation changes. I would like to treat my DIL and SIL as i would like my son and daughter to be treated.
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hi Kanaka,

i totally agree with you it happens everywhere.

warm wishes,

aqua.

 

well said shanthi.
At least the future generation should change..............

I think it is changing for good...............

 

kanaka ,

good topic.

Hope the future generation begins a change ..........

prabha

 

Dear kanaka,

V truly said.

I remember what our own IL member Chocolate had written in one of the threads:
If the MIL has a gud relation with the DIL then the daughter of the house sees to it that it is spoiled and it is back to square one.

Such a deep statement.She has put into words what many girls are suffering but not able to explain to the world.

suji

 

very true kanaka,
after all what the parent do for their daughter is for their daughter and many places we will find that the mil will not want her dil to be different from her daughters like vaira thodu and all that this brings about a complex and unnecessary fights as if we are better off kind, so parents when they seek alliance should always see to it that the groom is not too well off or too low, better to handle u c..sunkan