I was once very active on IL. I have been quite busy and with fewer issues in life. Bit of update- I am working full time, my 4-year-old is in pre-school, have an active social life. Thankfully everything is going smooth. I am back as I am very stressed out recently by my MIL's Stay and I am unsure how to handle it. Please guide me what to do. MIL came to stay with us without our invitation- She was in the US for her Daughter n son-in-law and after their crisis was over, she decided to stay with us. However, we were planning to get our flooring done which was not a good time for us to have her. But my Husband said that she will be there to oversee the work blah blah. And she came to stay with us in Nov 2019 till Jan 2020. She wasn't one bit helpful to me. She complains non-stop whey we arent traditional enough to do grocery shopping/ do things together (my husband and I have a different schedule) She rearranged my kitchen, she never cooked for me- rather ate all the veggies that I shopped and cooked only for her son and grandson. I was left to cook for myself ( not a big deal). Disregarded our house rule of not giving candies/ cookies to our son & screen time. Had a couple of fights with my husband and her- coz she basically used to say whatever her son says is the golden rule. This golden rule doesn't exist within our family if she wasn't in our presence. She blamed me for picking out the contractor- who delayed working on the floor- we couldn't go anywhere or invite guests during the 2019 holidays. She blamed me for everything basically for not having the house clean, the dishwasher being broke, the contractor I was quite and calm for the most part- as I really wanted my kid to feel bond with one of his grandparent (MY mom is whole other drama) But one thing that REALLY HURT ME AND I AM NOT ABLE TO GET PAST IS She told my husband that "if he washes the dishes I have eaten in, she will never talk to him" Therefore he chose not to wash the dish I had left after eating. My husband came and told me this himself without asking. I hadnt asked him to wash my dish either. I am assuming my husband was shocked to hear this as well. but being emotionally blackmailed by her, he couldnt stand up. This is extremely insulting to me- my husband can sleep with me kiss me with my Slavia and we share a child, but washing a dish that is eaten by me is beneath him? Then he shouldn't be doing any of the things with me. I am very hurt to a point that I didn't talk to her after she left. I sometimes get angry with my husband, as he didn't even stand up for me and wash the goddam dish and tell his mother "I will care for her and she will too. There is nothing in washing a goddam dish!!". I have brought it up with arguments with my husband. He openly told me "don't punish me for the words I didn't say" Please advise me on how to go further without this incident affecting my husband and my relationship.