Mil Visiting Usa With Her Brother And His Wife

@gknew,

Here is a budget for you:

1) Air travel expenses assuming they travel economy: $1,500*3 $4,500
2) Visa for 3 people $200*3 600
3) Medical insurance for 3 * 300 900
4) Site-seeing expenses one long trip and one shorter trip 6,000
750+250 = $1,000 X 2 X 3 person
(This is the most expensive line item)
Total expenses $12,000 (estimated)

Notes:

1) Most travel insurance covers hospitalization and hence please make sure everyone brings their own medication from India and regular doctor visits would cost extra.
2) Review the terms you have executed if you are living in an apartment about how many could stay in an apartment and how long?
3) If you are employed, make sure you explain the fire hazard and other security needs to the relatives
4) I have not included an increase in day to day expenses as a courtesy
5) Make sure you set your expectations of your children to work their schedule despite the presence of the relatives
6) Plan your meal plans way ahead before they arrive and just follow that routine
7) Don't compromise your routines except over the weekends
8) If your children still speak your mother tongue ask them to refresh their mother tongue
9) If possible, stay back when they go on sight-seeing trips so that it could be a good break during those 3 months.
10) Don't undertake any other new projects during their visit.

 

Many parents’ /elders’ tickets are paid by the kids in phoren, irrespective of whether the elders can afford it or not. Has been the case in many of my friends and family circle. Not saying we cant question the practice, but maybe I am a bit surprised when people act baffled by the practice. Maybe things changed and I dont know.

 

If it’s just the MIL visit, this thread wouldn’t have been this long.

It’s someone from extended family who has not even discussed with OP and her DH regarding the trip and expecting them to take care of everything is definitely surprising!

 

Yes it will be surprising if my uncle expected that. But thats the whole thing - The dynamics are different. In this case, if it was MIL and her Hubby then it wont be surprising, but her H passed away, and so maybe we arent in that situation so we wont understand that dynamics fully of how she has grown closer to her bro after her H's demise.

 

They are just applying for passport . There is a chance their visa might get rejected . If mil cannot stay in Bangalore what is the probability that will stay in us and keep coming back . What if mil sponsors their tickets . Isn’t too early to worry ? The request hasn’t come yet . Mil looks like a reasonable person who has not bothered the couple when they lived in India . After 9 years of marriage first time after retirement she is planning to visit her son . Husband seems to be reasonable person too . OP is worrying even before request has come through .

 

OP complaining about Mil not visiting her other son seems to be like she doesn’t want to entertain them . Summer camp for 6 year will get ruined because of grand parents visit seems to be over imagination.

 

So if parents come as substitute for nanny it is ok for kids to pay tickets but if they want to come here for sightseeing their ticket cost has to be covered by them ?
Most of kids who came to us are from middle class . There is very little population of parents who pay for their own tickets . My parents exhausted all their savings on our education so I’m not sure how they are expected to pay for their visits .

 

Agreed. It should not matter to op, if her co sister takes care.
OP can take care of her mil with a good heart