Mil Tantrums

Hi All,

It's just a vent post about MIL, I am a full time working mom with a elementary school and toddler kid working full time in USA with busy work schedule
Before I start the thread I am a certified cook, nutrition and yoga certified
So I m very particular about what goes into plate and diet
My inlaws visit us frequently and for them food means carbohydrates, white food with sugar, they are healthy and they eat only carbs

She wants kids also to eat carbs because as per her they digest easily, if I say carbs it should be white rice, white flour, white sugar and any thing made of polished grains. Vegetables also she has 2-3 in list that should be eaten , snacks should be deep fried every single day. If I give som veggies to us or kids she keeps red face with tons of anger, I could clearly sense and she says you give some nonsense to kids let me fry some vadas

You should always give food that kids love not vegetables they r not tasty per her, I told my husband couple of times he told to have my kids veggies then she got offended and started shouting


I understand they are accoustomed to full carbs meals, for me breakfast should be with millet dosa/whole grain pan cakes/any whole grain for her polished flakes

She is not listening ,I just don't want to fight all the time, she fights with my husband too, I am totally ok if they eat what they want but constantly pointing our diet gives wrong impression to kids that white food is best food


I told her I m not involving in your food habits, I know they have poor eating habits but I don't involve, but she constantly nags before our friends that we avoid sugar and white food

Most of our friends know we are gluten free but there is no point in nagging 24x7

My husband eat what I cook(healthy meal) but she nags all the time and says that his life is getting ruined with the food he is eating

She is planning every single day with fried food and forcing us and we are caught up

I don't know how to deal this, my kiddos she almost spoiled them, I feel so frustrated but just bearing her tantrums

Being a certified professional by myself I feel very sick by her meal planning and I m trying to make whole grain foods at the cost of her peace

Kids are out of control for now I don't know it takes time to change after they leave how to deal with this

 

Thank you Malstorm and Rihanna

I can't put on peadratician because she thinks she know more than any one

As I said I myself is a certified nutritionist and yoga coach, she sees me as nothing before her knowledge , I am not saying I am great, but at least I know the theory of how food works on body

Any way I had discussion with my husband , he is ok with us eating what we are eating now( my kind of food) and give an option for inlaws to cook their own food of their choice

Kids we will keep neutral for now at least I am packing lunch for my boy

We both work in two different timezones to match with kid schedules and to attend baby needs

According to me I can't invest my energy in convincing some one all the day when I already have 1000 things in my plate

The energy I get from my holistic life style i want to invest wisely

Thank you friends yesterday I was super stressed today feel little better