MIL spends luxuriously and gives money to married SIL

My MIL spends a lot on clothes, gives gifts to relatives unnecessarily. Every month she takes 5000 as pocket money from my husband apart from clothes, medicines, groceries to her home. she gives that money to SIL where my SILs daughter also stays with my mil. my husband has to spend everything for mil,fil,sil,and her daughter's education. my husbands brother will not spend a single penny on des people and enjoys his life with wife n son. my husband thinks about his mother,sister and her daughter. we are recently married. he doesnt bother about spending time with me. thinks abt des people. i have to earn my pocket money where every body gets it from my husband. i really dont know wat to do in future

 

Spoke with him.. he says its his responsibility and calls sil's daughter as his daughter. he doesn't spend single penny on himself like other guys who goes out with friends, dresses up nicely.. he says he lives only for his family and asks me not to interfere in these things. For a guy either mother or wife will be priority but he says his priorities are mother, sister, sister's daughter, father, brother and wife. all are equal. he loves me but i'm one among those whom he loves.. I asked him to spend some time for himself, to relax. but he doesn't bother and says that his happiness lies in des people. And they dont know the value of money spends lavishly while husband thinks for eACH and every small expense and saves for them.

 

SIL is married and have college going children.mil says she got married at early age and her husband isn't earning much as my DH. so she brought up both the children where my fil supported dem. my husband supported since he started earning. but that dont study well. my DH has give money for donation seat in college which costs around 4 lakhs. also my mil saves pocket money of hers and buys gold to the girl which is meant for medicine. end of the day she again complaints about health.

DH's brother is not contributing becoz of his wife and kid. his wife had fight and left home for few days. then she was convinced dat her husband is not going to spend single penny on anybody. they got car, ac, plots ... while my husband was asked to build new home for mil to stay where dey have old home. but we are staying here on rent.

 

now my DH goes to office on week days and weekends to home town for parents hospital or arranging somethings fr dem. he told me before marriage he has to tc of family. but to this extent??? now i got a new job in other city but its a career break. i'm planning to shift and concentrate on career and earn for myself. he thinks dat i'm working so no need to give anything to wife. he wont give anything untill i ask but for other family members he tc and gives more than they want. he thinks dat i'm selfish.