MIL Joining us to live.. from today onwards...

Your MIL must be equally ill at ease at your place and also missing her DH, your departed FIL.
Its tough to leave one's home and environment and shift to another home .
Hope you all are retaining the old house so that she can go for breaks and visit her old friends .
You are still in the honeymoon phase since you are newly married and missing your freedom but this is the start of real life.
Please have some empathy for the aged lady, she is with with you due to circumstances and not choice.

 

Hi CrazyQueen,

I agree with flowerlady completely- she has had to suffer a loss o big and ultimate, she must be in a terrible place herself.That said, I completely see where you are coming from as well- its going to be a big change for you too..

I would like to suggest something to you. Be nice, take good care of her. She is the mother of the man you love so much. HOWEVER, please make sure you set the right boundaries from the very start. What you dont like and never will, dont pretend to be nice about it...be gentle but honest..

All the best!!

 

Yes, life is going to change from now on... true!!

And you already seem to be a balanced woman, so I don't think you are going to face anything major

What you have to accept is the sharing...sharing DH's free time with his mother, and even sharing some of your free time to sit and try to talk about common things to her... Start with neutral topics like TV, or weather...and move on to talking about DH's childhood or your FIL...She has become lonely recently, and it is the best time to be-friend her now....Now is the right time to lay a strong foundation with her, right from day one...The main thing to remember is : don't EXPECT any prblms with her, just bcos she is ur MIL. Then you will become cynical, and suspect every action of hers.

And who says your DH can't hug you for no reason now...Maybe not in the drawing room, but stolen hugs / kisses in the kitchen / coming out of the bathroom / before leaving for office are v.v. enjoyable too !! :thumbsup

All the best! Life is full of different phases, it is upto us to make each phase more enjoyable than the last phase!!

 

Hello Dear!
Like every one said you can still enjoy the stolen hugs and kisses! And I guess in the long run, once you have your kids you will really appreciate having your MIL around.

 

Totally agree with flowerlady. Ur MIL also be in the same condition nw, too upset & uncomfortable, because death of her DH & new home. She might also have feeling that whether she is affecting ur happy life & privacy or no. So if u show any type of misbehavour or signs from ur side really affect her life. So please don't show angry towards her. She is living with u only because of her circumstances, she don't have any other choice. So try to make her happy & u & DH can enjoy ur life (kissing, hugging, etc....) in Bedroom, also in kitchen (sometimes), bathroom etc.....

 

Apt reply.. can't agree more..!!:clap