Mil Irritating Me So Much

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Thanks @Laks09
That’s exactly what I wanted to say...but frankly was too shocked as it was an unexpected remark and in the moment couldn’t think of a retort...the fact is that she herself has gained a lot of weight due to her sedentary lifestyle...she says even smallest work makes her tired and unwell, how will she burn calories..

 

Thanks for sharing your perspective as an MIL...only thing is that sometimes the wrong thing told at the wrong time causes bad impression...
I always keep trying to tell myself that she’s well meaning and has my best intention s at heart..but that doesn’t work out...when I was facing a severe crisis at work ...in such situation some advised me to change the project, change the job, or do higher studies etc..but She was sarcastically saying I should leave the job and sit at home as I cannot manage it...when I took a break and then later on unsuccessfully made attempts At getting back to work with different obstacles ,I.e I couldn’t get job... she made many sarcastic remarks about the time and money and efforts I spent on my courses and training so and certifications..as if it’s all a waste...when I was diagnosed with multiple health problems , first concern isn’t for my health or recovery, but how I will do entire work of the household and let her and FIL sit freely and take rest if I’m not well...though fact is not a single day I could take rest or be excused of my chores even while unwell....And also she told indirectly that I knew of few of my health issues much earlier but didnt get it tested or treated and dint reveal it etc...such things are leaving a very bad taste in my mouth..so even other times if she is genuinely in a good mood and cordial and talks to me normally, .I m always vary of her and don’t feel fully comfortable with my MIL..thinking what is going on in her mind...sad but true..

 

True...and this is why I’ve developed a deep seated hatred and resentment for my In laws over a long period of time...right or wrong I don’t Know...

 

If other ladies are also facing an issue of constant complaining by inlaws how do you handle it?
Generally,
For example, DIL slogging like anything doing chores but in laws nagging and finding fault like item not kept in proper place , or mopping is done too wet, ( wringing mop is not so easy). or accusing DIL of being lazy, or adding slightly more of certain ingredient in food, or Tadka or spice added slightly more in dal or side dish or Upma etc...or nagging that they got bored of the menu and want varieties of dishes...sometimes DIL may take help from her husband for certain chores and be criticized for it as household chores are considered as female domain by these old fashioned people.....sometimes these in laws make such stupid complaints about such small things and make it a big issue. .the situation is such that many Indian households dont have domestic helps and work need to be shared by all in joint family...not possible for one perosn to do hundred percent everything and not possible for anyone to do any task hundred percent perfect when they're exhausted and have so many other things to handle...
Got such feedback from my friends who are working ladies and in joint family...
How do you handle inlaws who are ever complaining and never satisfied?