MIL giving hard time

Well friends, thanks so much for advices.
Pretty much responses are like situation will be diff after they leave. But DH is acting weird and putting all his real feelings out.

latest update: FIL doesnt want to talk and wants to quit this situation asap(This was told to me in privacy by him..). Since parents had talk with fil and he's answerable to my parents, wanted him to handle his son's bad habits. I lost hope on fil too. MIL is enjoying the drama.

Cold fights are still happening. He talks non-stop and said he's least bothered me quiting his life(I never mentioned anything abt diviorce/seperation to him). I guess thats what he wants. No point in me breaking my head to save.
So, I am thinking to quit everything and go back to my parents.

I lost all hopes with this man and have no clue left how I would live in loveless marraige raising a kid with a drunkard and sadist.

 

Hello All,
I had been battling with thoughts and semi-decisions so far. List had seperation, leaving to India, battle myself alone here etc etc.

But last week decided to get parents here and have in-laws and parents talk out during last few days of my il's stay.
So far has been 2 sessions. My father was very angry with my dh behaviour and respectlessness. He got up to hit him but we all seperated them.
Usually my father is cool man but situation made him that angry. fil was kinda dual roled but was scolding my DH in many instances.

It was kinda pathetic situation to vomit out our few secrets but had no control. It was like cloth on thorns. After watching fil's cautious responses or scolding his son abt abusive nature and drinking issues , my parents suggested (in privacy) that
its time to stay cool with DH and slowly re-gain the control after his parents leave.
fil was telling me to just ignore or control my anger even though if DH acts weird etc etc.

Also, mil doesnt like me working(i figured out that she hates me being financially independent or so) ... fil opposed her though ...
I also mentioned, its my decision to quit job or continue; mil dont have to tell me about it. Also, my sil is suggesting him to go back to India(which i dont want atleast for next few years..) Hate that dramas day to day.

My father isint satisfied and wants me to go with them to India since we all know fil is sugar coated and mil is B**** and DH is easily brain washable. My mother thinks I should give DH a second chance. Just bcos elders are involved and discussed. In this way, I can regain the control and help him decide as what our future plans are to go back and settle(since sil is intruding).

Mil isint satisfied with all this talk. She likes it to prolong with more fights.

My thinking:
1) Should I give him second chance and be cool and take crap for a while and change him gradually; while have the job..
2) Since DH feels insecure of me being financially independent, should I quit job in near future(In this way I can show him how much i dependent on him, kinda they like it i guess)?
3) With all the conversations, my DH has become replica of his mother in talks and behaviour. So should I quit job and happily stay home and change my DH so that I WIN OVER my mil and their family.

I also think there is big ego in me coming in between for quiting job or anything that I might have to sacrifice or adjust. These ppl are not worth it.

I am just sick of living life while torturing my family to core.

Friends, pls suggest my sinking brain.
Well, pls dont forget I have a 11 months old who is giving me energy.