Hello All, I got married and left to US with DH few years ago. We had a baby last year and my parents came to help me out. I went back with my parents with baby for vacation; DH couldnt join us . Spent some time with in-laws place and came back with MIL to US. My FIL scheduled to join us later. Before going ahead, my mil wasnt happy with our marraige, not to mention she was dowry minded. But we didnt lived together so far. while in India didnt interact much. In US, first week was very uncomfortable. I tried analysing her and do stuff to balance. She never helped me with anything(btw, I am working mom). Initially it was tough to adjust from mom's comfort to mil no-help. DH was helping me in chores as usual. End of first week, she pick a fight regarding money matters. I gently escalated to DH and she was quite. After this incident she started with irritating behaviours, comments, complaints etc. I just ignored(although hurt..). Then she came up with concern that her son shouldnt help me in kitchen. We tried explaning how it is in US and working ppl with kid. She was quite again for some more time. But she kept poisoning my DH mind and always compares 2nd DIL(stay home girl..with no baby yet) cleanliness and cooking 3 times. One fine day, she pick a fight abt cooking and cleanliness, DH supported her. Both started raising voice on me. I realised the her pinch and left the scene. she came back of me and triggered me to talk. I couldnt take anymore and started replying them. she pulled all the past and money etc etc .. what not. I was shocked for a while but bursted out at her. My DH supported her further. It was like fuel and fire. He came forward for physical abuse. I couldnt take it anymore. Called my parents. Dh didnt even respect them and started talking divorce crap. They spoke with FIL. He said he will handle when he comes down here. he is here now but have not spoken a word yet. I am confused as how to proceed. Should I wait they start or should I talk abt it. I am really frustrated with DH who can be brainwashed easily. They both behave very normal now in fil. I am so angry and yet dont want to take harsh decision. btw, Dh has no concern or attempt to talk abt this. I even tried from my side but he had list and list of complaints against me (here in US as well as while I was on vacation in India). He told me that his bros, sis, bil etc etc compained abt me. I realised they all poisoned his mind against me while i was in india. Day by day my mind is inclining towards seperation. Please advice. Thanks in advance for your time and suggestion.