Dear Friends I want to share my POV about MIL.A Mil is not a monster but she is also a human being having all emotions if she doesn’t have emotions then she is a Jadam (having life but no activities).Generally speaking all Mils are not Rakshas as commented by a few dils in the forum .Every mother want their children to be happy in their married life .If the children are happy the parents too feel happy. There are some parents who feel unsecure at their old age due to health or financial status.It is the duty of the son to pacify them and give peace of mind.Here no role is for dil and she can be cool for ever. The parents motivate the children to study well and get a good profession for a bright future.Then when the children go to foreign countries due to their profession parents feel proud saying my son is in such a such a country and earns a lot and by saying this they think their status is high among the society .At the same time they must be ready to face the after effects of the children settling down there.They never think about the consequences. when they fall sick they ask their son to come to India to take care of them and be with them till their end.This is not fair on the part of such parents who intervene in their son’s life. As a parent they must help the children to live a life of their own choice and not to distract them from their style of life..People in abroad enjoy more comforts and it will be very difficult to come out of that comforts suddenly.By giving pressure to children seed of hatred is sown and it grows day by day and finally into a big tree. This is one negative approach of the parents .we have lived for the future of our children and let our children live for their children’s future. In one of the post a friend has mentioned that they are buying a new house and going to settle down in US which was not accepted by her Mil.she also added mil is jealous of the dil as she is going to live in a big house.very sad that Mil’s attitude is not good and this shows her immaturity or innocence.she must feel proud of her son buying a house of his own which is his big dream . If time and health persists parents can go to their son,be with them for a short time and enjoy the life. My kind request to young dils please don’t curse your mils.she is the one who brought up the son with a happy surrounding and never revealed out her sufferings.you may say this is the duty of a mother and she must do without expectations.yes true expectations bring pain but under certain circumstances they need the love of the children.This is a natural phenomena of relationship which we can’t deny.you are more independent than your mil and with a big heart ignore her mistakes.How long she is going to live in this world?Give her a small happiness till her end.Let the boys tackle their parents and find a solution and you be out of the arena .By doing like this a good relationship is maintained between mil and dil. I know many of you are against my views but I wanted to share with you all and I think you can take my views in a right sense.i accept opinions vary from people to people. Finally a Mother is to be blamed for not teaching her son about all difficulties in married life .she has experienced problems in her own life and so it is her duty to teach him how to tackle problems.Compromise on both sides make a happy family. Young Mothers you bring up your kids well to have a happy family in future.