@HariLakhera किंकर्तव्यविमूढ़ Etymology. Borrowed from Sanskrit किम् (kim, “what?”) + कर्तव्य (kartavya, “to be done, duty”) + विमूढ (vimūḍha, “perplexed, confused”), literally "confused about what to do". Adjective किंकर्तव्यविमूढ़ • (kiṅkartavyavimūṛh (humorous) flabbergasted, bewildered, thunderstruck 2. From numerous posts in IL RELATIONSHIP forum, one discovers in many geographies only DILs remain bewildered, confused, and even in couples out of love marriage, the wives are getting harassed in one form or another by their spouse jointly with their DIL FIL SIL & even BILs. 3. Menfolk remained a meek and or mute spectator between grinding wheels - the spouse and their mother are old stories. 4. When two are at loggerheads, third one remaining a spectator is the best course for entire family. Siding with any one results in more chaos and at times turn to dangerous levels. Let them do tit for tat or pay in their own coins or same coins - men maintain social distance & carry face or body shield as there could be a moment both mom and spouse might hammer him. 5. Men will have to answer for his remaining silence during that pillow-talk hour but that is entirely a different story. Ps: the irony for me is that am dealing with this subject today (19th Jan) 46 years before - the day I tied that three knots around and behind nape of my spouse’s neck. Thanks and Regards. GOD - You had created everything with a purpose that includes MIL vs DIL in Cold War.