This is a vent come re-assurance thread-- please don't criticize me on how I see my MIL. Sorry to say this-- unless I see the change in her. I am not going to take any explanation on behalf of her. I think I know what to do in my situation-- but I am here for re assurance if I am doing the right thing. This May I have to be away from my DH for nearly 4 months, this is something I need to do to enhance my career. I have three options in my mind, please help me in what would be the right thing for me. Option 1- take my DS along with me to the new place ( northeast) and get settled and hire help. This could be done. Just that I am not confident of handling it. I am super afraid of doing everything with a child, coz with a child everything is unknown. I am not sure I will be able to focus on things with my DS being there with me. Option 2- Travel to India. Leave my son and fly back to the northeast and after 4 months head back pick up my DS and come home. If my mother was able to come to my DH suggested I could take up an apartment in the new place for 4 months and my mom can help me with the DS--- but my mother can't come to take care of my child. Option 3- Leave my child in my home and MIL will take care of him while I am gone. I am only thinking of leaving my child behind- as the weather would be very nice and my son doesn't really have to adjust to a new place, new people, new Pediatricians, new nanny and will also give me the time that I need to focus on work. Now, my MIL desperately wants to come. Just for the namesake, she is stating that she needs to take care of my son-- but the real reason is to spend 4 months alone time with my DH and her daughter without me in the house. Like everyone knows here that my DH is momma’s boy--- I am just not sure how things will go without me being in the house and MIL playing the mommy role for the grandkid and her son. For starters, she doesn't cook the healthiest meals. I am worried about how she will handle my son. We do a clean eating. We don't add things like mida, cookies or ice-creams. From everything I have known about MIL, she raised my DH and SIL on Maggi, cookies, cakes and sweets. She absolutely doesn't regret it and even says we all die so why don't we eat whatever we want. Second, she doesn't believe in having toddlers under a schedule. She doesn't adapt and calls her seniority to do things in her way. She is late 50’s but acts like the 80's. So, I know she won't watch my son and do the household. Basically, I don't want my MIL to come and stay when I am not at home. I think this will cause more problems for me in the future. What do you guys suggest that I do? Could my MIL coming is a blessing or going to be a curse?