Mil is mentally ill and she has been having that disease for almost 40 yrs and is on medication. She has never done anything for me and most of the time in the past, I was left off when giving anything like prasad, or any other things. I was made to feel I don't belong here by her. She is always lying on the bed or reading newspaper. Thatz it. She does not talk to anyone much. Haven't seen any person as inactive as her. Her husband and son add fodder to her inactiveness and don't let her put a step. They'll do all services for her. Everyone of her relatives say she has lived like a queen and she is very lucky cause her husband and son have been doing seva for her. She has been taunted by her inlaws side since the beginning of her marriage that she doesn't do anything and lets her husband do everything. She would do very little then. Now she doesnt do anything. What irks me is that I was never informed that she had that dreaded mental disease when I was married. Even now, when no one is there in kitchen or near her, she goes and gets things for herself like food etc. The moment she sees anyone she asks them. She does the same to metoo. I feel irked and angry to do anything for her because she never did anything for me and always treated me like outsider. I feel, how can anyone expect your dil to do things for you when you have not done anything for her. Do you think I should let go of this thinking of mine and do things for her whenever she asks ??? I do things for her just for obligation, not out of love. I do just afew things a day everyday for her but I don't sit around waiting upon her. But whenever she asks me anything,I don't like doing it for her but anyways do it.