Men slap, women use words?

Here I was ready to when saw a thread from u ...
Ah....R....I see myself agreeing with u ... Can we have another thread please

On a serious note...verbal/emotional abuse ..is very hard to identify and prove . Some men/women can literally drive their spouses to insanity with very sharp words/manipulation. There is another form of abuse less talked about but just as sinister in a marriage "Withholding sex " as a form of punishment. And yes if u are a man (victim)in an abusive relationship the support system /laws are pretty pathetic.

 

Both are equally bad.. There is a tamil thirukural by Thiruvalluvar

'theeyinal sutta pun ullarum aaradhe navinal sutta vadu'

Meaning: Wound caused by fire/flame would get healed but not the wound caused by the sharp tongue..

 

Some men slap and use words, all men are not dumb.:spin
Its not as if men do not pass sarcastic comments , using words is not a prerogative of women!
But one cannot die or get hospitalized by words alone as in DV.
DV or slapping requires physical strength where men win unless the woman is a Black belt.
A powerful slap can cause internal bleeding i.e. physical damage.
Its not as if a person can only slap or speak ill, multi-talented men can do both.

 

Both genders use sharp words. I am sure many prefer sharp words to honey coated taunts any day.
Abuse in any form is no no.



No duel? So popcorn packet goes back to the pantry? ..Witsend... Why :-(

 

FL truth sometimes is stranger than fiction. U just have to research a bit and join any abuse prevention/hotline as a volunteer to dispel the above myth.

 

Yes i agree with anjannathan.. Both are bad.. Behind this Had the same reason lack of awareness or understanding.. Symptoms of depression, stress are also the reason of people who have been physically abused. But hurtful words can be only said by insecure and immature person. I think the only solution is to Discuss the problem and get it out in the open.

 

Men and women both use sharp words, intending to hurt the other. Some men know that DV will never be tolerated so they resort to words.

But, IMO, both are equally bad. Yes, I agree, DV gets more importance or sharper responses. Which should change, isn't it?

Mental / emotional abuse hurts just as much.

 

It's not that men only slap keeping their mouth shut. Often their mouth and hand work simultaneously.

In Indian context when ever people hear the word "abuse", they generally associate it with physical violence.

The sad part is that in our society, only when a man hits his woman - is taken as a sign to take strict action against him.

But let me tell you emotional/mental abuse is as damaging as the physical one.The scars on your body might heal after sometime, but the ones in your soul never heals. Emotional/mental abuse destroys you completely as a person. Your self-esteem/respect completely vanishes. Though there won't be any physical violence, but living in that atmosphere is very suffocating.

Found a very good book: "But He Never Hit Me by Dr. Jill A. Murray"

 

Physical Abuse is a No No....