Married Man Wants To Have Sex Chat

I re-read my post and I can see now how it can be interpreted differently. My choice of words and emoticons was not perfect. I am equal parts mortified and sorry that I gave the impression of saying "you asked for the sexting invite, it's your fault." That reminds me of the time my parents said I must have encouraged the roadside romeos due to my dress. Or the judge in some case in America who questioned the raped woman as to why she did not fight back more. That was not my intention.

The risks of workplace romance, even between two single people, has already been written about in many posts, so I am not touching on that.

"he told me that he is not keen on physical relation as he is devoted to his wife but he just wants to have sex chat with me"
Asking a few questions about the above is not victim blaming. Pointing out possible missteps on the part of the woman is not victim blaming. The man's actions are not being condoned. A person gets mugged on the street. We ask the street name and what time was it. That is not blaming the victim. My car gets broken into, anybody's first question is was there anything valuable visible?

A married man suggests sexting to a colleague. It is obviously wrong but the context also matters. Did the man suggest the sexting out of the blue? He saw an unattached female colleague and directly expressed a sexting interest? Or, was there a personal tone in the relationship, were they discussing personal things like his was love/arranged marriage, and he decided to test the waters? Did he back off at the first no to the sexting request?

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As to OP's actual question - why would a married man devoted to his wife be interested in sexting but not in a physical relationship - it is hard to say. Maybe he is happy in his marriage but looking for some extra fun. Maybe there is something missing but not big enough to leave the marriage. Maybe hiding sexting is easier.

 

Men use this and many other tactics to get a young lady’s phone number. It’s very hard to always be always on the guard.

Sometimes, despite all the fall backs and cautions we take as women in the workplace or otherwise, such things can happen. At such times, it’s best to let bygones be bygones, be kind on oneself for letting someone take us for a ride and look at what steps to take to ensure you are safe from things like future ramifications stemming from this interaction.

I feel that women are having to take extra precautions for just being single or married or divorced(depending on the context). It doesn’t matter what your marital status. There is always a place where you need to be cautious.

This isn’t sounding very liberating. Make sure it doesn’t happen, make sure you nip it in the bud, make sure you collect all the proof. This is such a no win situation.

With the advent of things like Facebook, WhatsApp and the disappearing texts app, things are more burdensome. There are many layers of communication that we have to decipher and decide what is ok and what is not. It’s a tough situation indeed!