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Discussion in 'Married Life' started by nolife, Jul 29, 2022.

  1. nolife

    nolife Silver IL'ite

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    Hello all,
    I was initially attracted to a colleague of mine and later got to know he is married and I kept my sweet distance.. over period of time I realised that he is attracted to me too and he told me that he is not keen on physical relation as he is devoted to his wife but he just wants to have sex chat with me. Obviously I have denied it and told him that I am not keen on this.
    why does someone wants to have chat if they dont want relation ship? Does this mean his marriage is not going great,?
    He told me that he loves his wife and theirs was love marriage. whats your thoughts on this?
     
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  2. 1Sandhya

    1Sandhya Platinum IL'ite

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    He’s testing to see your limits and see what he can get for free. He wants to have his cake and eat it too. It often happens that rotten souls have good or attractive packaging. Now you know his reality. Just block him and ignore him completely now that he’s shown you who he is.
     
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    SuiDhaaga Platinum IL'ite

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    I’m thinking that wife should get a tik-tok account to chronicle her clean break from this toxic jerk.

    But then people may blame her for any ill action her cheating ex commits towards her because she is liberating herself in social media.
     
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    Gauri03 Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    Clearly your colleague doesn't love his wife as much as he professes. My bigger concern is such talk with a colleague. This is a sexual harassment complaint waiting to happen. I hope you did not initiate this conversation, and none of this is in any recorded form. Steer clear of this topic in future.
     
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    nolife Silver IL'ite

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    He did not harass me and the conversations with him happened in friendly nlte.. i had no tab of how this happened..he asked me in whats app and I politely declined. He did not force me in to it later. However I might soon be changing team. I was just wondering what is going on if he is happily married.
     
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    Gauri03 Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    All I'm saying is that when faced with such talk from colleagues, shut it down unequivocally. People may not have ill intentions to start with, but relationships can sour, or workplace competition may muddy the waters. Any ambiguity in your response will provide them with the ammunition to turn your words against you in future. I've seen many a consensual relationship pop up years later to damage careers.
     
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    nolife Silver IL'ite

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    Yup I agree.. i had few chats at personal level but not a sex chat from my end with him or involving him . I was bit affraid as i had no clue of how i was drawn to this but yes I shall ahut this down and be safe. Thank you.

     
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    1Sandhya Platinum IL'ite

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    What kind of friendly conversations leads to this kind of propositions? You were playing with fire and now it can burn you.
    Avoid the personal even is what we are saying. All he needs to do is show that chat transcript where he propositioned to your other colleagues as proof that the matter has progressed beyond that. That’s enough innuendo to sink your reputation. Very foolish of you to flirt with your own office colleagues and allow it to go to even this extent.
     
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    hrastro Finest Post Winner

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    You really think he is devoted to his wife? What ********!
    Tomorrow he is going to do the same and worse to you too... he obviously sees that you have "nolife" and is looking to enrich your life with his presence..
    Someone who can do this to his legally wedded "love marriage" wife is to be avoided and kept far far far away, especially as he is a colleague too and could create gossip and problems at work for you...
    Avoid and keep away, and if it gets to harassment stage, dont forget to keep copies of his texts as proof and report to HR
     
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    Laks09 Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    In addition to this, I would take screen shots of the said conversation and keep it some place safe. I would keep the entire chat track. In the future, this can be proof.
     

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