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Discussion in 'Married Life' started by silver08, Apr 20, 2011.

  1. silver08

    silver08 Senior IL'ite

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    Marriages are made in Heaven
    "Remember that a successful marriage depends on two things:
    Finding the right person and being the right person" quote.

    Do we really know the actual definition of a successful marriage? If not than lets look for it and see what conclusion we can draw. We often say that someone somewhere is made for you and the day you come across that person you feel that that he or she is the one you have been waiting for. But later we see that due to lack of understanding and mental compatibility they move apart. So how can we say that they were the perfect match since they didn't give any effort to understand each other? So it's important you know your partner. There are people who get physically attracted and fall for each other and eventually end up getting married. But later on when they see their wavelength not matching them, they easily get separated without a second thought. In today's generation we see these incidents more compared to earlier generation. And this is more due to the changing social scenario. With so many things to divert your attention you really don't know what to do. ss

    Marriage is not just coming together of two individuals. There is much more to it. To sustain a marriage it is important that there is effort from both sides than only a marriage can carry on. A successful marriage is like a good recipe whose main ingredients are love, commitment, understanding, concern and togetherness. If you can include these aspects in your married life you can find happiness in your marriage. Andre Maurois once aptly said, "A happy marriage is a long conversation which always seems too short." Which is so true. When we talk about mental compatibility between husband and wife we have seen that not only incase of arrange marriage this problem exist where both of them were unknown to each other before marriage but even after many years of courtship in love marriages this problem exist because when we meet before marriage we are at our best to impress the other person. And we start accepting each other the way we like to see each other. But gradually after marriage when we slip into our natural self that time we have to accept each other as we are. And in most of the cases the real self is not what we wanted to see and then begins the contradiction with the person whom we have loved and with whom I have to spend my life. So it's important that when you love a person love him or her the way he or she is and not the way you want him or her to be. Than only you can be happy.

    A happy married life calls for constant commitment and concern for each other. There are few small and minute aspects, which we tend to forget in our married life, as we get busy with the daily chores. So at times it is important to indulge in those minute details of a married life, which will constantly remind each other of the love and concern being present. We can conclude by the quote of Barnett Brickner, which says it, all that "Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate."

    Regards

    Usha
     
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  2. sreemanavaneeth

    sreemanavaneeth Gold IL'ite

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    HAI USHA,

    "Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate."

    APT LINES FOR THE MARRIED LIFE. BEING THE RIGHTMATE IS TO BE VERY UNDERSTANDING, COOPERATIVE, TO HANDLE THE SITUATION IN A PROPER MANNER AND WITH A DEEP LOVE:)
     
  3. silver08

    silver08 Senior IL'ite

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    Thank you for the quick fb sreeman
     
  4. berymoor

    berymoor New IL'ite

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    It is hard to say,because some where we found a couple looking made for each other and the other way relation's are broken before reaching to the marriage. The other side some people got married after and after. What a made ? 1 ,2 ,4 or more couple. So , It's a heard to believe in present time.
     
  5. satchitananda

    satchitananda IL Hall of Fame

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    Maybe, maybe not. We don't know about that. But one thing certain is that we have to live them on earth and remember that human beings have feet of clay, accept that and bumble on together through thick and thin, in sickness and in health, for better or for worse and for richer or poorer.

    There are of course some marriages which are probably made in hell, for whom the above rules cannot be valid. They will have to look for a gateway out of hell.
     
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    Aspire Gold IL'ite

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    I am working towards it. I guess this will be always work in progress !
     
  7. manjubashini

    manjubashini IL Hall of Fame

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    Hi

    "There is no more lovely, friendly and charming relationship, communion or company than a good marriage." this quote i read some where .Many marriages would be better if the husband and the wife clearly understood that they are travelling on the same boat. If 1 finger is pointing the opponent then the other 4 are pointing u. this is the great knowledge for all the humans.

    rgds
    manjusai
     

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