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Marriage Between Indian Born & American Born Desi?

Discussion in 'Married Life' started by anika987, Dec 4, 2021.

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  1. sarvantaryamini

    sarvantaryamini Gold IL'ite

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    @anika987, one cannot do much about marriages. One of my relatives, no one in the family, like literally none, only the girl's father wanted the marriage to happen. Even though the girl and her mom/siblings hated the alliance they had to shut up. Guy had no clue why he married her. Every single person except the groom and his parents felt sorry for her. Yet the marriage happened, only to be broken within 4 months. That too because the boy did not want to anything with her. She was looking like a baby in front of him. And he was just... something was just off with him. Truth is stranger than fiction. Such things are above control beyond an extent.
     
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    anika987 IL Hall of Fame

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    Oh..tats very sad..hope the gal is doing ok now..
     
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    Vedhavalli Finest Post Winner

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    She would have to face true reality of overseas livelihood.
    1. Doing your own chores from bathroom cleaning to dishwasher...
    2. Learn to be independent with earnings managing money. Paper works taxes etc.
    3. She has to find a job, else it would difficult for her to manage time.
    4. Every marriage needs a lot of work, hope she knows it.
    5. Immigration status
    This marriage would definitely work out if both parties are aware of pros & cons.
     
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    I grew up in the US and married a man who grew up in India… we did not work out. We had culture problems, but it was mostly because I couldn’t adapt to his traditional mentality. I have many male friends who married women who grew up in India- those couples outwardly look pretty good. I have not seen any divorces based it culture differences. That doesn’t mean it’s all fine and rosy. There is a lot of adjustment, especially if the guy is very conservative and the girl is used to an almost western type of upbringing in India. Patriarchial ******** can flourish even in the US. Most of the time, Indian girls are more likely to save the marriage at all costs, so they will adjust- which makes it these in-laws and guys happy. The biggest problem is citizenship/work visa issues. If the girl is legally bound to her husband to live in the country and it doesn’t go well, it is tough to navigate without a support system. This could happen to anyone having an arranged marriage, so I don’t see a huge risk.
     
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