Hello, Single and married women (guys can reply too ), during courtship/getting to know each other phase were you asked by the other person to make adjustments or give up your career if you wanna get married to them? I understand the responsibility of balancing work and family and I know I can do it, but I am surprised couple of guys I came across in last 3 years clearly asked me to give up completely on my professional dreams for marriage. My story - Have been talking to 2 guys for past few months one of which lives in Canada. We haven't been able to meet in-person due to travel ban between Canada and US. He is about 7 years elder to me, in his early 40's and we have been talking since December. I felt he is more mature over the other guy I am talking to, but had sensed some controlling issues from his end, but I thought he might be better in-person so thought waiting and giving it a try. Fast forward, last month my whole family in India was affected by Covid including my 6 months old nephew and my parents had to be hospitalized, dad was in ICU. Also lost my grandma recently. I was communicating with him, but not as much because I was quite stressed due to all these. During our last couple of calls he would always ask how many guys I am talking too and how many guys I am meeting in-person these days. I think he wanted to know if I am talking to anyone other than him. Today suddenly he lashed out at me saying he has been talking to me for 5 months and things are not moving between us. I told him there is nothing I can do as we are not able to meet due to Covid. In past we had discussed about me moving to Canada after marriage if we clicked and that he won't have to do any paper work for me since I have Canadian PR. Today he was just yelling and asked me if I have started looking for jobs and when am I planning to move. He said after we meet and if we like each other, he is not going to wait more than couple-few weeks to get married, so I should have a plan in place. In past I had asked him if he would be open to move to US after marriage when he said no as an answer, I never judged him or asked another question. However, somehow he bought that thing up today and said my question was stupid and didn't make any sense for me to ask him that since his family lives there (he doesn't live with his family, but they live in same country. He resides on other end of Canada) so obviously he won't be ready to move. He then asked me my next 3 years personal and professional goals and when I told him I am working hard to move up the professional ladder in next 6-8 months and also plan on getting married in next couple of years if I find a match. His response was, "it doesn't look like you would be investing in marriage even after getting married". He said he knows women in late 30's and early 40's who are on anti-depressant since they are not married and were chasing their career and told me even I will be like them if I don't focus on getting married. He said this applies only to women and not to guys since they can still find a woman in their 40's. He wants me to work, but more like a 9-5 job and clearly asked me to tell him if I still want to chase the career. He said few other mean things too, but I will skip those for now otherwise post will get more long. Based on his attitude, I and my family decided not to move ahead with him. But I was left in shock with his behavior, him being a very well-educated guy.