Woah, what's going on here?? Look like I missed quite a lot of stuff. Anyway, I just read the whole thread and...hmmm...well, I'm just spechless! Dear Mathanggi, I think I got what you are trying to convey here- you wanted to tell that the society looks down at people who are dark-skinned and matter actually gets worse if the so-called dark-skinned person gets married to a supposedly fairer skinned spouse...right? If this is what you wanted to convey, then fine, I've no issues. For I do agree that the society consists of racist & colour-crazed idiots who thinks that good looks and skin colours are all that matters. Nevertheless, what was disturbing here is not the issue that you tried to convey, rather your own opinion on that matter. You speak about not giving 2 hoots to one's caste and colour and yet, in the same breath you gave your opinion that one should actually choose their life partner by looking at the impression that their life partner is going to present to the world. Allow me to quote your exact words I mean, what on earth does this sentence mean???? Are you trying to tell me that I don't have to care about my spouse's colour or caste when marrying, but it would be better if both me and my spouse are of the similar colour and caste, as some foul-mouthed public might tend to leave my marriage reception if it's otherwise? And what's worse, you even commented about the off-springs of such couples by saying that it's "funny and strange to see them". Like what??? When has kids been funny and strange to look at??? Like I said, it's a different matter if you were talking about the public's general views on such issue. But in this case, you have inevitably opened the floodgates of criticisms by condoning such views yourself. Why, you even went to the extent of saying that it's a bad luck that your daughter is born darker than your son. Seriously Mathangi??? You can say that about your own daughter??? My mom is fairer than I am but if there ever comes a day where my mom criticises me or term me as bad luck for my skin colour, let me tell you that that would be my most heart-breaking day. Even if she had meant it as a joke, I still would have been heartbroken by such statement. And that's not because I couldn't come in terms with my skin colour but because I wouldn't have been able to bear that my mother, who gave birth to me, can have the heart to term my skin colour as a bad luck. I'm going to reiterate your own words here again:- Similar to your statement above, let me say that "when one writes, one should also see to some extent the overall impression he/she is going to present"! In my opinion, you are not giving a very good impression on yourself via your threads, particularly this one. I've made several good friends through IL because I was able to connect with their views as given through their posts/threads here. In fact, their posts/threads even made me to have a wonderful relationship with them outside IL and today, I can certify that these people are as wonderful as the posts/threads they make here. Unfortunately, your post have given me an adverse view on yourself and I'm glad that I've not known you on a personal level for I wouldn't have been able to face a friend who condone such narrow-minded views on people's colour and caste.