We live outside india. We happen to see a post in watsapp community group, a lady is selling indian food. I ordered once and when I went to collect, during the small chit- chat at parking lot she casually mentioned she works for a big mnc "abc". This is where my husband also works. We became friends and used to meet now and then. Fast forward one month. She had to make a transfer to my account for a purchase We made for her($20) and from here I got to see her full name. Fast forward one month. We invited her home for a get together and I asked in which technology do you work, she said "xyz". I excitedly asked her if she minds referring my profile to her project since I am looking for an opening in the same field. She outright rejected and said she dnt do referrals. I said ok that's fine. After that day she just ignores me. After few weeks, I send a message asking how are you all doing. Any plans for Xmas holidays. She replied "fine". I felt something seemed fishy in few instances but never bothered to think more about it. Now, just on instincts I checked if this lady works for "abc", shockingly there is none in her name. 100 % confirm there is none in that name. I felt really bad. I considered her as a good friend. Happy for the fact we have someone speaking our language living close to us. I am 1000000% ok if she doesn't refer, I respect, but faking on where you work?? Completely cut out relationships for asking if you could refer???? I am person who cannot act casual if I am not ok. Cannot fake on things. After living a decade outside india, I have always felt there are not friendships, its all acquaintance. People talk only if they need something. You have put on fake smile, fake it all to get thi gs done. Are we loosing the essence of friendships.