Love or being Loved

I had always wondered about this particular topic; one of my friends had lots of fan following, especially boys, she is not a beauty queen, but she is very presentable and is admired by all for the way she carried herself. I had personally learnt so many things from her right from dressing sense. She was not a class topper, but one could discuss anything with her and if she didnot know the answer, she will learn it and pass on the answer to us.

But this particular lady, fell into a dilemma......:crazy yes she really went crazy, by thinking, thinking and rethinking about one particular thing. Even before she finished her post graduation, she got proposals from one of her(our) friends. And to most of our amazement, she was secretly admiring one of another friend for a very long time. But that friend have such ideas about her. But when he refused, she was so shocked and she wanted to make sure that he accepts her love. But he was also so strong in his ideas, as he wants to go abroad for further studies and ....... But this other person who proposed, didnot stop there, (he was a bit senior to us and was already earning a 5 digit salary, I am talking about 10 years back), asked his parents to talk to my friend's parents and they too liked each other.

She had to decide upon whether to proceed with the person who loves her or whom she loves. But atlast she have to accept the love of the person who loved her. She is now happily married and doesnot think of the past,(lucky her her DH also not talk about the past), blessed happily with two kids.

But still I keep pondering, whether everyone is married to the person who have loved them or who they have loved. On personal instropection, (ours is an arranged marriage) we learnt to love each other and we have learnt to accept each other as we are. But I still see many people fret over the fact that they should have married that person whom they have loved and not the person who they are living with.

I wanted to write about this topic, as we both met each other after a very long time and we both discussed about the title Love or being Loved and she agreed that it is better to marry the person who loves you than to marry the person whom you love.

 

Dear happywoman,
Thanks for your prompt reply. As I have written in my post, my personal opinion matches with yours. Love have to be both ways. We both have learnt to love each other and have learnt to accept each other as we are. I agree, that love has to be both ways. But let us wait for more people to put in their views too. It is my friend's opinion that it is better tomarry a person who loves you, it is not mine. I vote for mutual love and understanding, whether it is a love or arranged marriage.

 

Dear Ranganayaki,
Thanks for your comments. She leant to love him and now leading a very happy life. She is now regretting in not accepting his love initially. But now she is showering all her love and he is in the recieving end. It was a very nice scence to see both of them pampering each other.

 

Dear Meenloch,
Even in arranged marriages, you have a chance to choose the person of your choice; the option is given to girls also now a days. But many a times, many girls are forced into marriages. Though they learn to love and accept, they regret deep in their heart.

I have to write another blog on that about the experience of another friend of mine. Will compile it and post it soon.

 

Dear AC,
This was something, I wanted to post all day long as soon as me and my friend met. Infact out of the very few friends I have she is sort of close to me, just because we both have always been working together on projects and helping each other out. Though now she have become a full time homemaker, she have never regretted that. She loves her family to the core and now, they both are real good pair. It had been almost a decade and she is been admired by all in her family and relatives circle. I felt happy that she really took the right decision