Love, Hate And Jealousy

I dont hate people who are jealous of me. In fact I need more of them because they make me realise how amazing I am . Its my awesomeness that triggers the jealousy in them. Nevery hate people who are jealous of you but respect their jealousy They are people who think you are better than them

Being happy or sad, gloomy or excited, moddy or stable are options that are presented to us every morning. We just have to make the right choice . Dream big Live bigger'

In life I expect a lot which is my weakness , give love and expect love , want to have some things and when I dont get , get disappointed. Sometimes I come to conclusions also very fast. But then I am a person who is ready to forgive and forget also because all fingers are not same, though at that time I get very irritated

When I had gone for marriage I felt I was not given much importance as an elderly person. Might be everyone was busy and tensed so they did not think of that. Some people are there who are bold and make their presence felt and take initiative. I also take initiative at times but during last engagement I felt tht was not invited so during marriage I thought I wont interfere unless I am called.. My brother's wife who is also my husband's niece is very close to me and shares everything. It was her sister's son's marriage. She is very diplomatic and knows how to manage. She is an all rounder. During marriage, my two sisters in law and she were rehearsing for the malai mathal and oonjal pattu. I felt I was left out. They are blood relations and I am from out I felt though all of them were talkng to me nicely when they were alone. They are always close with me and respect me bu tthis time I felt I am left out. But next day my sis in law gave me the typed copy of the song and told me to keep as she did not carry her handbag and before singing my brother's wife also gave a copy to me. During paligai I was not around and later my sis in law was asking Manni why did you not come. Later I felt they re the same only I felt left out and misunderstood. Also in the morning my brother in law wanted pen to write on the cover when we were in the lodge but later when we were in the hall he was asking everyone for pen though I was sitting right in front. Usually I dont talk but I got angry with his behaviour and toldhim when you see your sisters you forget this manni, morning only I gave you pen and now why you are asking everyone. My husband's family is an ideal family and they do everything as a team work . During marriages sometimes there is misunderstanding but then later all are one and loving.

My sis in law's daughter whose son's marriage it was also was busy I think and I felt left out. But then I did not take to heart. They had given everyone puliyum chadam and thayir chadam for the night and train which we had taken . So in the train I phoned and told her that both the rice were yummy and we had in the night and for lunch next day. Also thanked her for the saree. I felt since she is not so experienced might have been tensed about marriage.

The real education is your attitude and behaviour with others. It defines your whole personality , no matter how qualifed you are

My brother in law is also a very nice person but has some negative qualities too which I think everyone has, I also must be having which I might not be knowing. Our tickets were booked by his son and daughter, very sweet of them. While going he told us to come to his house and we had yummy dinner, aam ras and puri and his son dropped us at the station. For train too he only prepared everything. While coming back too he told us to come to his house, have lunch and go. He is also my age and his wife is no more.

Now the next trip will be to Pune for my another sis in law's grand daughters seemantham. Sis in law's daughter invited and told me you are the eldest and you should definitely come. So me and my husband and his niece are going on 18th

Life is a long distance between Human being and being Human. Lets take atleast a step daily to cover the distance.

 

Thank you for your first feedback Agatha dear. True dear days have changed. I think I should also accept this reality .

 

Yes dear our family is very loving though sometimes there are misunderstandings. But we forgive and forget and enjoy in marriages. so you also had same experience, so you can understand.