losing husband to IN laws

Hi all,
This is a space for all women struggling to keep your husband from the clutches of your In laws. I will start my tragic story from the beginning. I am a healthcare prof.

My family consists of my MUM & Grandmum & sister. My dad never supported us financially or emotionally from the beginning. He lived with us but always schemed against us & always fought with my mom. He only wanted our money & property. He tortured us mentally always. My mom only tolerated this cos she thought i won;t get a good proposal if she got divorced. I got married at the age of 24 yrs to a healthcare professional arranged marraige. I was studying at that time so we hadn't started living together but only visited each other. Before marraige itself the husbnd & IN laws were ok with my education & studying. We were just getting to know one another , at first everything was rosy n all. Then the problems started my husband turned out to be a slave to his parents as in he would say all that i told him to his parents, He could not do anything independently , He was 34 yrs old & was dropped to his workplace by his dad, He even took thier help to book tickets to our honeymoon. When i visited his place his dad would not allow us to go out, eat from out , he controlled everything. My husband's every breath was controlled by his dad. It was unbearable. My FIL even tried to verbally abuse my mom. I tried to explain things to my HUSbnd but to no avail. He didn't support me even 1% but joined with his dad & started fighting witth me. He put my calls on loudspeaker & said he wud record it & keep it as proof against me. He stopped calling me & when i asked him to meet me in person & talk he never came to meet me. I even suggested meeting outside my house without anyone knowing but he never came. Finally we ended up in divorce.

during this time i also came to know that my dad was involved with my INlaws in scheming against us, badmouthing my mum & me & making them against us. WE wre vry hurt & my mom divorced my dad as he had spoilt my life.

6 months aftermy divorce i met a nice guy named V through a matrimonial site & we became friends. He was a divorcee too. His wife had left him as she didn't want a family, kids only intrested in career thats wat he told me. V told me that he doesn't smoke or drink at home only socially. V had a awesome job, was not very goodlukin but was talking honestly & jovial or so i thought. He made me laugh. WE fell in love & wanted to get married. But his parents were against us getting married reason said was my family problems. I told everything to V frankly & said marry me only if ur parents agree. V struggled to convince his parents, once he came home drunk & told me his parents were forcing him to marry sum1else i told him to decide on his own. I told him i love him but i cant force him to marry me without his parents consent. I should have noticed his drinknig but he told he did so only becos of his parents pressure so that he wud get confidence to face them. V convinced his parents & we got married.

Well it was a wonderful time after marrying him, we wre head over heels in love & wre vry happy being with one another. But happy endings never last na.
In came my evil MIL & FIL. My MIL & FIL started coming frequently to our place. ( note they originally stayed at native place own house) & they would stay on for days on end. MY MIL would fill my DH head with nonsense & create fights between us. My Inlaws would fume seeing the love between me n my DH. mY DH V was very expressive too so they were seething jealous. My MIL wud orrder me to do certain things, superstitions etc but i didn't mind as i was totally happy. She was jealous if my DH V wud give me any gifts & wanted them for herself. TUrns out my MIL is possessive about my DH like hell. She wud insist on serving fud to him herself, & everything like that . That too i never botherd i thought so be it if that makes her happy. I was still happy as V was showering me with love & care. WE wre on top of the world, magical bond really. I wud do every little thing for him though he was only towards his work. All house hold responsibility on me. He wud give me cash , had maid but won;t take any responsibility like buying provisions & all.