Hi ladies I am considering a choice in living arrangements with ILs. 1. Current arrangement : ILs stay with us in the US for 3 months and with BIL for 3 months and in India for 6 months . The 3 months they are here is hard - usual drama : causing lots of fights, bad mouthing to everyone, no one can visit us, sitting around with a sad face claiming no one cares ie I don’t take them out and entertain them , finding fault with my kids etc etc. But I can get through it because it’s for just 3 months Option 2 : DH is thinking about buying a place for ILs near us (10min away) . The benefit: they won’t live in our house so day to day drama will be less. Bad news : they will become my complete responsibility. BIL will not have to do anything for them ; they will be a part of every occasion in my life and they will make it hard and fight when my parents come here to visit Also as they get older their visits will go from 3 months a year to 6 months a year. They don’t want to live in India anymore because they want us to take care of them So ... is it better to have them living in my house 6 months of the year and be completely free the other 6 months or is it better to have them nearby all year and just manage with them during parties and functions and weekends? DH says it’s my call . He is supportive and knows what they are capable of . At the same time he won’t say no to them wanting to live in the US . He says they are old and they didn’t save or plan for old age so it’s his responsibility . DH has forced BIL to do his 50% share for parents but the minute we get a place For them here BIL will stop helping and taking them for some period of time In my ideal scenario ILS are here for 6 months in their own apartment and at BILs place other 6 months. If BIL wants to get them a separate place near him too that’s his problem . Obviously this won’t happen so .... My parents visit for a few weeks every 2 years . They won’t move here and have already bought a retirement place in India along with some of my aunts and uncles . So there is no question of what will happen with my parents Thoughts ?