Live In Relationships

I do not have any personal experiences but as per my belief I can say few things:

For divorce she is thinking twice as this is a long process and it will separate you from the society of married people. But in live-in you already living differently so while separation one can easily come out which give less security and trust on other. One can emotionally depend on other only if they have the trust and secured relationship that cannot be breakdown easily.

No man can give emotional support without getting involved physically. Its not easy to avoid.

I think there can be lots of depression in leaving an unsuccessful marriage and shifting to insecure relationship.

If she is not happy in marriage she can go for counseling and try to adjust if possible or can leave him and live alone and remarry again after sometime. I personally do not find livein a better option.

 

Dear Op
If you cannot trust marriage where a sort of compulsory commitment exists, what can be said about a live-in relationship. It' too fragile. And as messedup has summarised it well, a man will most probably be involved physically if he was to give a good emotional support to a woman.
It's better to remarry and get in to a trusted relationship than to wander.
Sorry for the negative reply.

 

The fantasy of having a live-in relationship for emotional support, is a fantasy and not real. Partners cannot give that type of support without further commitment. Let's be honest, for a man, giving physical support is easier than emotional support - in fact, it's one of the ways that they express it.

I think your friend should embrace independence and live alone (or with a roommate), and the only get involved with someone, when she is ready. I feel like she will get hurt, if she commits to a live-in relationship, and finds the man "straying".

If both parties are against marriage, but want the committed relationship- then, I can see a live-in situation working.

 

What exactly is the reason her marriages dint work..??

 

“Live in” relationship refers to two people living under the same roof, to my understanding. I do have a few friends who are “living in” together. It would probably be a one in a million chance to find partners (guy or gal) who are not interested physically but are still vested in emotionally, in a relationship n living in together, I dono how that’s possible until unless it’s purely a platonic friendship, not a relationship.

I can understand your friend’s reluctance to divorce n marry for the third time, it’s normal. It would probably be good for her to not rush into another relationship n focus on herself for a while.

She can look at online / phone, long distance relationships if she’s looking for emotional attention, it may take sometime to find a match or a genuine virtual relationship but can keep her away from physical relationships.

Or she can still have a normal relationship, emotional, physical or whatever she’s comfortable with, without rushing into another marriage, I know of friends dating steadily, happily for 7 years n all, so she can go for a long term relationship instead of “marriage”.